tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post8875725181856943958..comments2023-05-08T09:00:26.345-04:00Comments on Psychobabble!: Are you her?Solitairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-91150189894569383232008-06-04T09:09:00.000-04:002008-06-04T09:09:00.000-04:00I agree with the gist of this post. I have myself ...I agree with the gist of this post. I have myself blogged about this at <A HREF="http://kiransfinallyblogging.blogspot.com/2006/10/gender-bender-anti-female-society.html" REL="nofollow"> Gender-Bender: Anti-Female Society </A><BR/><BR/>However, sad part is many women (mostly feminists) refuse to differentiate between "women are <B>equal</B> to men" school of thought and "all men are b******s" school of thought. They equate "feminism" with "eradication of the male"! This puts up a big roadblock in the path of uplifting the downtrodden weaker sex - doesnt it?<BR/><BR/>Even respected bloggers cannot help but stereotype men. Just look at the third comment in my post which I mentioned above. The comment comes from a respected blogger (whom I happen to hold in very high regard). But her comment indirectly says something like "most men are insensitive or couldnt care less about the plight of women" - and positions me as an exception.<BR/><BR/>Is this true? Is this fair? Why dont women stop to think about their father/brother/husband before stereotyping men thus?<BR/><BR/>And again I ask - We could do with a lot less of such unnecessary stereotyping - couldn't we? Women can only gain equal status as men with equal contribution from both sexes. Men and women need to work together for such a cause - instead of warring till eternity!Kiranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01127226413109512324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-52669645609836528712008-04-27T14:26:00.000-04:002008-04-27T14:26:00.000-04:00i'd say "fortunately im not her"but i wanna applau...i'd say "fortunately im not her"<BR/>but i wanna applaud the way u put the truth across!IncorrigibleVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484955354089378277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-73607387069916454682008-04-19T04:33:00.000-04:002008-04-19T04:33:00.000-04:00maybe a 2yr old kid shud cover her boobs and butts...maybe a 2yr old kid shud cover her boobs and butts :-/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-55506024562650338212008-04-14T12:38:00.000-04:002008-04-14T12:38:00.000-04:00Something a friend said to me (while we were discu...Something a friend said to me (while we were discussing Taare Zameen Pe and dyslexia), keeps coming back to me so often. He said 'Deepali you make up a small % of the population - educated, urban, working, independent, well off, most people don't live the life you do'. Now I know this for a fact especially living in India where I can SEE the contrasts everyday but somehow, someone saying it to me, made it really sink in. And nearly every other week, his words come back to me. <BR/><BR/>It is tragic but human to not look/feel/think beyond our limits/experiences/understanding and therefore teaching kids compassion is so important if nothing else.<BR/><BR/>In school when I used to get called a 'feminist' I would turn to the guys and tell them they should be one too cause women needed all the help they could get from wherever it came. It shut a few of them up but the others didn't even bother to think about what I said. <BR/><BR/>Life is difficult for many and will stay that way for most of them. The least you can do I guess is at least is not add to the difficulty.Deepalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09825753670909209182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-75828576816911731872008-04-14T12:35:00.000-04:002008-04-14T12:35:00.000-04:00wow... i m lucky to be the last one for posting th...wow... i m lucky to be the last one for posting the comments. Well i dont have to say much abt my views but I am amazed with the topic discussed here.. everyone was so true and sneha you narrated this topic so well..so nicely..!<BR/><BR/>all credit to u, sneha..!!<BR/><BR/>i love this post.Amithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03700970676117733226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-11563654216137346442008-04-14T11:25:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:25:00.000-04:00@ Poison, and how do we do that?@ Debasish, its ge...@ Poison, and how do we do that?<BR/><BR/>@ Debasish, its getting better..but at a snail's pace.<BR/><BR/>@ Aditi, yeah I wonder too but I guess that does not even matter anymore.Solitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-47556506358149544922008-04-14T11:22:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:22:00.000-04:00@ Anjuli, tu nahi samjhegi. Chhod de.@ Aneri, I ho...@ Anjuli, tu nahi samjhegi. Chhod de.<BR/><BR/>@ Aneri, I hope so. And I hope that WE in our present times do something for the future generations.<BR/><BR/>@ Anurag, so once again women are considered FCPs for fighting for their rights.<BR/><BR/>@ Prats, very true.Solitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-1642291519528119282008-04-14T11:20:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:20:00.000-04:00@ Nik, OMG! I knew that you were an MCP but such a...@ Nik, OMG! I knew that you were an MCP but such a big one...that's a shocker!!<BR/><BR/>@ Gazal, no some of us don't stop at that.<BR/><BR/>@ Rakesh, thanks for the input but I do not agree with you completely. Not all women are responsible for putting other women in such positions. Do you think that a dowry death is caused by another woman?Solitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-20319576011712974922008-04-14T11:15:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:15:00.000-04:00@ Emperor, as we clearly can see all around us.@ N...@ Emperor, as we clearly can see all around us.<BR/><BR/>@ Neeku, and yet people like to close their eyes and pretend its not there.<BR/><BR/>@ Pri, yep!<BR/><BR/>@ Ghost, thanks!! For those comments and the critique. :pSolitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-27581238913120225452008-04-14T11:01:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:01:00.000-04:00@ Crimson, KID? Will check the site out.@ Mohak, t...@ Crimson, KID? Will check the site out.<BR/><BR/>@ Mohak, thanks!! BTW, if you read the next post, keep mum about it at home.<BR/><BR/>@ Mez, true.<BR/><BR/>@ Vasanthan, and new generations. But some newer generations continue to learn the orthodox traditions and follow them.Solitairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751415960885943414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-1111376822223102472008-04-14T06:15:00.000-04:002008-04-14T06:15:00.000-04:00Sad bt true...in midst of all the revolutions that...Sad bt true...<BR/>in midst of all the revolutions that we are having , technologically , economically and otherwise... the fact exists tht the women are really kind of manipulated in the third world...<BR/>In india , definitely the situation is on the improve.. with feminist organizations coming to action (some of them are real trash tho) , the situation does seem to be improving....<BR/>good post as always...mohak mehtahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00485788604195810321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-26451797128124695892008-04-14T03:20:00.000-04:002008-04-14T03:20:00.000-04:00One of those things that may take aeons to change ...One of those things that may take aeons to change just like terrorism hasnt been nipped in the bud.Mezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916802435996239841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-33247355903966628372008-04-14T01:16:00.000-04:002008-04-14T01:16:00.000-04:00@ Nik...Well, this is a reply to the post saying t...@ Nik...<BR/>Well, this is a reply to the post saying that the life led by women in remote villages in India is a luxurious one due to their willingness to serve their husbands by choosing home to workplace.I wonder when these so called "lazy" women ever had a chance to step their foot outside their home to make a mark in the male dominated world. <BR/>I think it is an extremely hilarious statement unless pun intended.nitwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163270896752837000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-84091350837009081262008-04-13T23:08:00.000-04:002008-04-13T23:08:00.000-04:00good post. but it is sad that little can be done a...good post. <BR/>but it is sad that little can be done about the traditions. Only time can change that.Vasanthanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02874721835242609427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-62031688611415614382008-04-13T09:21:00.000-04:002008-04-13T09:21:00.000-04:00egocentric can be an adult too.egocentric can be an adult too.Ropihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17214991557644729165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-68430570141975719892008-04-13T04:18:00.000-04:002008-04-13T04:18:00.000-04:00It's a naked truth... and you just unveiled it. It...It's a naked truth... and you just unveiled it. Its unfortunate... Yet it still prevails :(Neetalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05270939201703815853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-24570945835399406382008-04-13T00:55:00.000-04:002008-04-13T00:55:00.000-04:00NO! im not...and thank heavens for that :-/NO! im not...and thank heavens for that :-/Prihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01023126998314268275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-42582963882871998382008-04-12T22:34:00.000-04:002008-04-12T22:34:00.000-04:00it is a biased, not fair, stupid world. at least w...it is a biased, not fair, stupid world. at least we understand the shortcomings of human 'attitude' politics. <BR/><BR/>I think most negative answers comes from people who are really fcking lazy to do anything right about the wrongs...so they just stop to say 'hey you feminist' rather than acknowledgin the fact that things are bad, have been bad...and they are in a position to make it right. coz u know it takes alot of time and effort that this materialistic wankers cant afford...<BR/><BR/>nuff said. the world will be changed by the world itself. in time. and remember...at least...the least we 'did' was by knowing that the problems exist.<BR/><BR/>p/s: green sucks girl..it sucks!!! :p and the music u put there...it doesnt reflect the gravity of the posts...so remove it or just choose some classical thingy. hugs.gPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439371766182405053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-78596746808280671992008-04-12T15:56:00.000-04:002008-04-12T15:56:00.000-04:00Do you think that a girl child in Africa who is bo...Do you think that a girl child in Africa who is born into a multi-millionaire's family is treated fairly and has a choice of being or not being in that situation?<BR/><BR/>Do you think that a woman in Iran, Iraq, or Afghanistan who has to strut around the city in skimpy clothes everyday, unable to ward off adulation and attention, despite knowing the consequences, because their fathers are rich tycoons, and has to give in to pleasure, is being treated fairly and has a choice in being who they are?<BR/><BR/>Do you think that when a girl child in countries such as China, Korea, and India who is given precedence and reservations and favored, or even admired after she is born because of gender favoritism is in a fair position and has a choice in putting herself in the position of all this adulation?<BR/><BR/>Do you think that the women who continue to laze around at home in the remote villages of India shying away from the duties of both homemaker and bread winner, do so out of sheer contempt for their husbands and the male specied? Do you think that the luxury afforded from the the society to lead this lifestyle is fair and that the girls have a choice in going against them?<BR/><BR/><BR/><B>Disclaimer:-</B> The response might seem spiteful and utter BS. But i comes at an ugly time where my sympathy for the fairer sex is at an all time low. For every scenario, (you) feminists throw at me directed towards a sympathetic cause, provokes an (albeit arrogant) counter argument against it.<BR/><BR/>For the record, this would be the first post of yours that i disliked. Sorry.nikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04036271313020300186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-72695293046065812032008-04-11T21:31:00.000-04:002008-04-11T21:31:00.000-04:00a lot of very poigant issues...some created by soc...a lot of very poigant issues...some created by society and some by women themselves.....it's sad<BR/><BR/>this post made me realize i'm glad i m 'me' and not 'her'.....but then we all stop at that...don't we?Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12593310068688637054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-74760155092641177132008-04-11T15:00:00.000-04:002008-04-11T15:00:00.000-04:00There is one more picture.whom we should blame and...There is one more picture.whom we should blame and why...I do not know about other country but i can tell one thing..these problems r created by ones mentallity...and these women r creating problem for other women..victims and culprit are same....this is the case in indiaRakeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06907020492315617239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-39939987581315758052008-04-11T14:13:00.000-04:002008-04-11T14:13:00.000-04:00This is so true....par tu inne gusse mein kyoon ha...This is so true....<BR/><BR/>par tu inne gusse mein kyoon hai?Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14848684021931332096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-1084021562146315902008-04-11T13:55:00.000-04:002008-04-11T13:55:00.000-04:00Yeah, well, I am not her, but hey, I am much bette...Yeah, well, I am not her, but hey, I am much better off than my mom or my grandmom was, and my nieces are much better off than I was! <BR/><BR/>So I am just happy to see the progress, and happy to see that our world continues to be a work in progress. As long as there IS improvement, I am not complaining! I will be ever grateful for the changes that are coming about. Yes, there's a lot more that needs to be done, but its not going to happen overnight, hoga, ek din, maybe not in my lifetime or yours, things will all be different.aneri_masihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363429426292603118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-54699417981399376882008-04-11T09:37:00.000-04:002008-04-11T09:37:00.000-04:00totally agree that gender equality is still a dist...totally agree that gender equality is still a distant goal n A LOT needs to be achieved<BR/><BR/>but i have a problem with feminism edging on FCPism...<BR/>which again is a very thin lineAnuraghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17029271522271816151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8387806561280667418.post-7747504758151184612008-04-11T08:21:00.000-04:002008-04-11T08:21:00.000-04:00They talk of gender equality everywhere...but its ...They talk of gender equality everywhere...but its obvious it hasn't reached the parts where it had to. Seen and read so much about such oppression it hurts to even think of it.<BR/>You forget it could happen right here in our own house, emotional harassment: where the woman puts up loads of shit, only 'cos of society and her guilt. It gets really hard to draw the line at such things...btu if it gets dealth with someplace...i'm sur eit'll crop up elsewherePratshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10849938760602815322noreply@blogger.com