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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

I expect it to be that way!!

Suppose you are 25, a fresh graduate out of college, a newbie in the world of work, gone through a couple failed romantic relationships, and in the eyes of others, a trifle bit inexperienced. Get the picture?

Then you meet a 35 year old, who "obviously" has more experience than you in all these aspects of life. Correct?

WRONG!!!!!

Sometimes, we indulge ourselves too much with an EXPECTATION BIAS. Yes!! Yet another term coined by psychologists. All that the expectation bias suggests is that when we expect something to happen or be a certain way, even when results suggest it is not true, we continue to be in denial and believe what we always expected. So even if the 35 year old turns out to be "stupid", not really a genius full of wisdom, and certainly has nothing valuable to offer in terms of experience, we continue to believe that he/she is more experienced than us!!

Yes. There is no denying that some people genuinely know more than us but sometimes, they do not. Likewise, when we expect someone not to fulfill our expectations, even when they do, it is hard for us to believe that they did!!

This is an error that we really do not commit as much as the fundamental attribution error or the out-group homogeneity bias, but nevertheless we do. Can you think of times when you committed this error unknowingly only to realize later that you were under an illusion?

116 Words of Wisdom:

Southpaw unplugged said...

I really like the way you project the thoughts....
In a lighter mode, i m so glad that my very first gf was 4 yrs elder to me, more experienced by all means and it really helped me overall...

Rakesh said...

i think environment also play a pivotal role...take a example if a guy is treated like he is all in all by his parents and the same time his brother is treated like he is not worh at all....how these people will react after period of time.

Keshi said...

Expectations often cheat us, yes. And like u said, we still choose to live in denial. Cos ppl's beliefs and opinions r so hard-wired that they hardly change. Sadly.


In this example where AGE was the measuring unit, it goes to show how wrong we all can be if we fail to see beyond our own expectations.


Not every 25r old is stupid, not every 35yr old is wise, not every man is a bastard, not every woman is bitchy, not every young person is dumb, not every old man is smart etc etc.


We've got to learn to look way past our expectations...and also, learn to accept it when an expecation is proven wrong.


Good post!


Keshi.

Keshi said...

It's also similar to how some ppl think every beautiful person is shallow. re: my recent 'The Deep End' post.


Keshi.

Keshi said...

**expectation

sorry abt the typo!

Keshi.

Ghost Particle said...

Do psychologists take into account the surroundings that a person grows up in, interacts with before evaluating the said trait? I always wonder if the Western, Asian, even pressure groups, communities, slaves face the same problem...hemm...mst get some book to read about this. While mental conditions can be general, there surely must be cultural, living condition filters to this.

on the eb - Of course this might also apply to believing direct sellers, tele-marketers, etc. When they talk nice, we believe they are experienced, the next time they call we still believe them, then things get screwed up, we still give them a chance for a few more times. Wisdom could be anything from knowing at what time a road is not jammed, to getting the right results all the time.

Its all about obligations, about knowing what you want, rather than living in denial. If the person continues to live under denial of their said reference, that means the person is important for them. its like living with a monster all our lives knowing very well they are, but not letting them eat us. By 'showing' we're living in this bias, we actually develop very good defense mechanisms, hence unknowingly in future occurrences, we don't feel such anymore. And where does this eb stands when we have ways to work around, or solve all everything bad that happens from someone who doesnt give us what we expect. Even more, do we develop ways to unknowingly correct the bias by actually influencing them to repair their ways?

wait...am i making sense?

Solitaire said...

@ Southpaw,

Thanks!

Great! The only problem is that the next time you meet someone 4 years elder to you, you may indulge in the expectation bias based on past experiences.

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

Of course it does. Past experiences plays the biggest role.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Thanks!

I see that people blindly believe that older people are wiser when it is not necessarily true. Moreover, younger ones are not given fair chances and poo-poohed.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Oh ya! Very good example.

The expectation usually is that a beauty has no brains. When she does show she has brains, people say, "oh it must be a fluke".

Solitaire said...

@ Ghost,

I don't know if I understand you correctly but I am going to try.

***Do psychologists take into account the surroundings that a person grows up in, interacts with before evaluating the said trait?

It is NOT a trait. It is a tendency. People are NOT BORN with this and therefore, it does come from the environment and experiences.


***I always wonder if the Western, Asian, even pressure groups, communities, slaves face the same problem...hemm...mst get some book to read about this. While mental conditions can be general, there surely must be cultural, living condition filters to this.

Of course things differ from culture to culture but human beings inherently have certain tendencies.

***Of course this might also apply to believing direct sellers, tele-marketers, etc. When they talk nice, we believe they are experienced, the next time they call we still believe them, then things get screwed up, we still give them a chance for a few more times. Wisdom could be anything from knowing at what time a road is not jammed, to getting the right results all the time.

Ok so are you agreeing with this expectation bias? Seems like you understand it.

***Its all about obligations, about knowing what you want, rather than living in denial. If the person continues to live under denial of their said reference, that means the person is important for them. its like living with a monster all our lives knowing very well they are, but not letting them eat us. By 'showing' we're living in this bias, we actually develop very good defense mechanisms, hence unknowingly in future occurrences, we don't feel such anymore. And where does this eb stands when we have ways to work around, or solve all everything bad that happens from someone who doesnt give us what we expect. Even more, do we develop ways to unknowingly correct the bias by actually influencing them to repair their ways?

I don't know what you are talking about. Sorry!

Ghost Particle said...

Yeh yeh...its good enough i agree and understand it.
Ok ok got the trait and tendency part...sorry.

the last part means:

If a person who has eb, keeps on having this expectations and then cycles of being let down, does the person develop defenses to such thing. So that when its been happening for a few times, they would just smile and brush it off. Like saying I knew it, I know this would happen, or never-mind he tried, he fails, let him go on with his ways. This also means we are willing to face the eb problem, but we are growing out of it. something like that.

Keshi said...

yeah and I get so annoyed when my OLD aunts think they know better than me and ask me to get married like they did at 18 lol!

Keshi.

La vida Loca said...

this is a new one on me :)
Thanks

Southpaw unplugged said...

Correct but the the pointer is now on me coz after 16 years of experience and 68 gfs of variable ages and places over the period of time i hv sort of become complacent...lol
On a serious note, my profession has made me such that the moment i come across anybody irrespective of gender, the scanner inside the brain just starts working and most of the time gives a correct suggestion on how to go ahead with the person...

Soham Shah said...

Wow lovely post !!

Let me share an incident with you all ..

There were two guys in the schhol .. let name them S and B ..
S used to be a scholar and always used to get 1 or 2nd rank in the class .. B did not like study at all .. he hardly managed to get passing marks .. but he was fond of dancing and singing .. in 12th science exams, S got good marks and went to pursue engineering.. B could not clear the exams and he failed .. everyone including B's parents thought that S will be super-rich in few years and B will be a struggler all his life .. But B followed his instincts and his interests and jumped into choreography ..

today S is earning good amount of money and financially he is sound but still he does not hv that much amount of money that he can buy a house or a big luxury car in mumbai ..

B just bought a 1 crore RS bunglow in one of the posh areas of mumbai .. he owns one luxury car and has become a big celebrity in film industry ..

S hereis me and B is one of my close friends .. I am happy with his progress and all the fame he has got .. I am also happy about my situation too .. So never underestimate anybody no matter how dumb he looks or how dumb he acts !!

Kris Bass said...

I'm sorry but I really am in a mood today morning.

I'm sorry that I have to totally disagree with you. I have met many, many, many interesting men much older than me and I have almost always found them genuinely wiser and knowledgeable.

This might be a positive bias from my end as I'm a gerontophile.

But still, at least in my life, it's been the exact opposite of what you posted about.

Prakhar said...

ok...Keshi said it all!.. I concur.

first paragraph is pretty common with most of 25ers!

Solitaire said...

@ Kris,

The age factor in this post is only an example. This bias occurs in many other situations such as people expecting beautiful girls to have no brains, so on and so forth. And as I did mention in the post that there are people genuinely smarter and better than us in many aspects. However, this may not hold true for everyone. You are fortunate to have met the wise ones. Or maybe have managed to block out of your memory, the not so wise ones.

Solitaire said...

@ Ghost,

I think you still do not understand what EB is. A person who has EB will not allow himself to be let down and will continue to believe that the expectations were fulfilled even though they were not.

Hemanth Potluri said...

wen i read this i felt a similar feeling experienced wen i went to my work for the first day...

there wer some seniours in work who try to tell me all sort of things which they came to know recently...they have age no gauge in the brain...

but as keshi said

t every 25r old is stupid, not every 35yr old is wise, not every man is a bastard, not every woman is bitchy, etc...

expecting the unexpected is tru...and expecting beyond exception is wat called awesome...and i like to be awesome ..and i am confident u r awesome always...

urss.hemu..

Aphrodite said...

i am in denail about a lot of things at times...and for me more often than less...are expectations not met ...:'(

Ankur said...

Sol, in life everything is expectation... there is no reason of liking someone, and that too with the age factor, certainly not neccessary!!

and do u really believe "Then you meet a 35 year old, who "obviously" has more experience than you in all these aspects of life. Correct?"

is it neccessary? i challenge!! :)

and my point is exactly the same as urs... "Yes. There is no denying that some people genuinely know more than us but sometimes, they do not."

"Can you think of times when you committed this error unknowingly only to realize later that you were under an illusion?"

we cant come to know of it until we committ it!!
i dont think i committed a mistake but i certainly know wats attainable and wats not!!
u know, its similar to, sometimes ppl may be mistaken as fool... but they may just be stupid at times, but not fool certainly... sometime ppl just committ "mistakes"(wat others coin it) knowingly!! :)

Expectation bias is certainly not a problem, but its another expectation we have with us and our lives!! Do Psychologists really have an answer for this?

Princess Mia said...

this makes so much sense...there was a time when i wud beleive that ppl older than me would know things better or are more experienced n know the world better but i dont believe so anymore.....everybody is born in different curroundings n faces different circumstances thus what one learns from experiences if different.....

DreamCatcher said...

There is a reason for this thinking "people blindly believe that older people are wiser", in a Society like ours, where we used to taught by our Elders that "Respect ur Elders", "Obey th..", "whatever they r saying it's right" etc etc..
It takes time to realize that it's not always true and it comes's due to our Experiences with them.
Most of the time people think that Experience is directly proportional to age but it's not the case always! Experience depends upon other things as well(Creativity, Learning from ur failures, curiosity to learn and participate in different activity, knowledge etc.)

Scattered Thoughts... said...

I don’t think its just about age and experience. This can hold true or untrue on other aspects of life as well. There might be scenarios when you do some thing with great enthusiasm while expecting every thing to fall right in place but the end result is very different, far ahead from the expected one. This can be due to circumstances, persons or resources involved or may be plain luck. How would you define that? Is that EB?

Scattered Thoughts... said...

Sorry I meant "far different from the expected one" in my last comment

Parul Gupta said...

yeah u r very right...guess it because u r a pshycology student...

can't recall a particular incident but indeed there r times when we have mistakenly assumed a senior person to be wiser n more experiences than us w/o checking the facts.....

vishesh said...

hmm...if u had asked the question alone,i would have said a big no..because i have heard a lot of people tell it and i hate it...age is no bar...

Ranjani said...

It probably goes my back to the whole nature vs nurture deal too....right?!

Pujan said...

This is just genuine observation out of your last couple of posts. It seems to me that you are loaded with lot of pre-conceived or self loaded data. You should get rid of that. that stops your creative ideas and waste your energy in counter fighting. When you are a psychology student, you should never have to have those "loaded" stuff.

Also lot of rhetoric talk like "does size really matter" kind of. It is really not clear in what specific direction/subject you are talking about. Why i say so because, I have seen in past that you are really good at putting forward content articulately or thats the only content attractions to me to visit you again and again.

Just feedback from your reader.

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

That's human nature.Will keep happening now and then.

Still thinking said...

Oh yes!!! I'm a living example and it purely applies to myself :)

However, I've got to read what 'fundamental attribution error' means now.

Reading your blog feels like college days all over again, getting hooked to psychology and studying economics instead :)

Jack said...

Solitaire,

Age or educational qualifications do not mean that the person is wiser. Experience is what life teaches you or rather how best you learn from what life throws at you.

Take care

Ria said...

Hmm so true gurl!!we do this every so often....especially in India it is almost taken for granted tht if somebody is elder to u then he/she mus b a genius. Its so unfair to say this jus on the basis of age.

Aneesh said...

***35 year old, who "obviously" has more experience than you in all these aspects of life.

Well, we cannot say in all aspects of life, may be in some aspects of life.
A 20 yr old nerd may not be experienced in fun-loving activities where as a 15 yr old may have more experience in that.

rayshma said...

most ppl who've worked would have realized it wrt their seniors there. a lot of times, u expect someone at that desig and of that experience to understand something totally. but it's not always that they do.

Vandita said...

i cant recall anything i did but i think my mum does this quite often she always assumes that since im small i cant be talkin any sense as compared to her... and sometimes if u take a third person angle...my argument might prove to be more logical!
moreover i personally feel that age really has only part role to play in maturity and thinkin pattern generally...it also largely depends on experiences in life and the ability to observe and reason.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Hmmmm..generation gap...another interesting topic.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Hmmmm..generation gap...another interesting topic.

Solitaire said...

@ Vandita,

Great example! That is an expectation bias many parents have..."tujhe samajh nahi ayega" type of dialogues are quite common, don't you think?

Yeah there is a lot more that goes into a person being a certain way than just age or even just experience alone.

Solitaire said...

@ Rayshma,

Superb example! Yup!! We most of the times think that our seniors would know more about us only to realize that they perhaps need to go to the bottom of the ladder again. Or if the expectation bias is strong, we might never realize that and continue to believe all that they say even though it makes no sense.

Solitaire said...

@ Aneesh,

Correct. And that's why the obviously is in quotes.

Solitaire said...

@ ria,

I know! Its quite unfair. Sometimes, the elderly may be wiser in terms of more experience but not necessarily have moved with the times.

Solitaire said...

@ Jack,

Yep! Likewise, just because someone is younger, it does not mean that they are not as smart. Obama is younger than Clinton but may be an equally or better candidate for presidency.

Also, some people may have the experience of doing something over and over again (for example teaching a class) and yet may not be great teachers but someone even very new in the field with no past experience may already have an innate knack of doing so.

Solitaire said...

@ Still thinking,

Haha! This is like a psychology 101 class, aint it?

Solitaire said...

@ Sameera,

Yeah it will.

Solitaire said...

Dear reader (Pujan),

Consider psychobabble (especially the last two posts) as Psychology 101 in Rutger's University, NJ.

These posts are not MY biases, prejudices, or thoughts. They are clearly what's out there in textbooks for laymen to read and learn more about.

What exactly do you mean by "self-loaded" data? Sorry there is no means of me "getting rid" of the knowledge I already have. And who decides what a psychology student "should" or "should not" have in their minds?

*****Also lot of rhetoric talk like "does size really matter" kind of. It is really not clear in what specific direction/subject you are talking about.

Why bring up a Short and Sweet question comment here on Psychobabble? If you would have been on short and sweet long enough, you would know that it is a place to get loony and not for theories or explanations. That is what psychobabble is for.

Thanks for visiting.

Solitaire said...

@ Ranjani,

Maybe, in some ways. But sometimes, no matter what the genetic inheritance or environment is, some tendencies are just plain human.

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

Age is just an example though.

Solitaire said...

@ Parul,


LOL! I am not right because I am a psychology student. I am just putting the terms across that I think are interesting but people may not have heard about.

You are right. We all have expectations from others based on their experiences but we don't realize if those experiences have been meaningful to them or not.

Solitaire said...

@ Scattered thoughts,

We are talking here about the tendency to believe that something did happen based on our expectations (even if it did not). So you may find that the advice given to you by a married man about marriage is accurate (even though it is not) and this happens because you expected it to be accurate in the first place!

Now do you understand the concept?

Solitaire said...

@ Dreamcatcher,

****There is a reason for this thinking "people blindly believe that older people are wiser", in a Society like ours, where we used to taught by our Elders that "Respect ur Elders", "Obey th..", "whatever they r saying it's right" etc etc..

I understand that. But realize that the concept of older people being wiser is only an illustration to the expectation bias. The same goes for "beautiful girls have no brains". One almost always expects a pretty girl to be a bimbo. Especially in the United States with blondes. Get my point?

Solitaire said...

@ Princess,

Yeah! And its not only with age but this can be applied to many other examples too!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

***Sol, in life everything is expectation... there is no reason of liking someone, and that too with the age factor, certainly not neccessary!!

What are you talking about? Where does "liking someone" come into the picture?

****and do u really believe "Then you meet a 35 year old, who "obviously" has more experience than you in all these aspects of life. Correct?"

is it neccessary? i challenge!! :)

Notice the quotes around obviously? It was meant to be a sarcastic remark. Not my belief.


****we cant come to know of it until we committ it!!
i dont think i committed a mistake but i certainly know wats attainable and wats not!!

Whatever you think is attainable may very well be. But sometimes we do not attain it and yet continue to think we did. That is what is expectation bias.

****u know, its similar to, sometimes ppl may be mistaken as fool... but they may just be stupid at times, but not fool certainly... sometime ppl just committ "mistakes"(wat others coin it) knowingly!! :)

I don't understand. What is the difference between fool and stupid? And please do not give me the dictionary meaning.

*****Expectation bias is certainly not a problem, but its another expectation we have with us and our lives!! Do Psychologists really have an answer for this?

Expectation bias is of course not a huge problem. I am not asking anyone to correct anything here since it is human tendency. Just to know that these things do happen and to be aware of it. What answer do you want from psychologists? If you are talking about expectations from life, you are going on a completely different tangent.

Solitaire said...

@ Aphrodite,

Awww! On the good side, that means that you are not entertaining the expectation bias!

Solitaire said...

@ Hemu,

Hahah!! Age no gage...so funny!

Yes, this applies to work places as well..even when age is not involved, only seniority too.

Solitaire said...

@ Prakhar,

Yeah! Even if we do not think that the 35 year old is wise, they may think we are dumb!

Solitaire said...

@ Soham,

Aha! Somewhat like Aditi's brother in Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na! Just because he does not study, people expect him to be this lazy person. I think he was quite smart. He already knew of the expectation biases that people would have and therefore, did not show his room to anyone!

Solitaire said...

@ Southpaw,

Does that scanner ever malfunction? And if it did, would you know?

Solitaire said...

@ La Vida,

No problem! :)

Pavi!!!! said...

Expectations is the mother of All.. U-kno-wat!

So why does one have an expectation..mabbe coz of an assumption or coz of stereotyping? For Eg if one sees a woman driver, trying to park they EXPECT her to take long coz they ASSUME that ALL women are bad drivers!?!

All these problems are so inter-related.

Coming to the specific eg of a 35 yr old..well, i agree with age there is more experience n with experience one learns n knows more..but this doesn't hold good for all.
Some people think that studyin in a Boy's school makes us react in a particular manner n studyin in a co-ed makes us react in another manner...but thats not true.
Wat we know n wat we do..depends on an individual's thoughts n reactions to the situation that (s)he is thrown in..

oops ..have i digressed?or does wat i say make sense ?

Keshi said...

**generation gap

yes...one generation has EXPECTATIONS from another generation, as per THEIR experiences...and thats not fair either.

Wut say Sol?


Keshi.

Solitaire said...

@ Pavi,

***Expectations is the mother of All.. U-kno-wat!

Haha!!! Yes I do know what!

****So why does one have an expectation..mabbe coz of an assumption or coz of stereotyping? For Eg if one sees a woman driver, trying to park they EXPECT her to take long coz they ASSUME that ALL women are bad drivers!?!

Sometimes people have an expectation based on experience too. They might have seen a bad woman driver (such as Ankur's sister) but end up expecting all women to be that way. So yes, in a way that experience led to stereotyping. And this stereotyping leads to an expectation bias.

***but this doesn't hold good for all.

Precisely my point. Sometimes, people just assume that someone at the age of 35 is much more wiser than one who is 25 but in fact the 25 year old may have more social skills than the 35 year old!

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Once again there might be an expectation bias even amongst generations. Your aunts might think "these younger generations never understand" when in fact you might!!

Keshi said...

exactly wut I mean!

But its something that's hard to tackle isnt it. I mean Older ppl wont change their views that easily...and the Younger ones also think they know wuts best for them.


Keshi.

Suma said...

unfortunately, earlier, i have never believed anyone elder to me as being wiser/smarter...it first stemmed from rebelling against teh control mechanisms that 'peopel speaking from experience" laid down, but then i went ahead and made mistakes, realised that they were right, but still, i like to learn it my way...

now, i do believe in following advice, after i have been with the person in question, and accept it gracefully. but age being the deciding factor, never...i have a cousin younger to me who i turn to for advice...

viswajith.k.n said...

y does one has to analyze so much? y cant it be just plain simple?

Southpaw unplugged said...

Nope so far its working really good, the day it malfunctions and hopefully i must know, i'll quit.

Anu said...

Expectations unfortunately get written into our thought pattern growing up. I have burned my fingers a couple of times,when I expected a couple of older colleagues to lead the way.Thats when I learnt, that sometimes experience may be not exactly the relevant experience that you expect from them

DreamCatcher said...

yeah! I agree, Different Socities have their own biases, isn't it?
"beautiful girls have no brains" but u have.. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Dreamcatcher,

Aaah! Thank you!! Did that break your expectation bias?

Solitaire said...

@ Anu,

Exactly! Many people here have said that experience is what matters and not age but I think sometimes even experience does nothing!

Solitaire said...

@ Southpaw,

You can't quit. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just do some self-reflection. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Viswajith,

Because we have been granted with higher cognitive powers than other living beings. We have to make full use of it!

Solitaire said...

@ Suma,

It is always good to test the waters before diving deep. That's precisely what you learned.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Sigh! There is no end to this.

Southpaw unplugged said...

On a personal front i'll surely follow ur advice, but professionally i dont think i'll give myself a chance whenever it happens, our country already has loads of rusty weapons, i wud never burden her with myself.

Abhishek Khanna said...

well i am 22 n i still feel i am the God and know it all :d

Vinz aka Vinu said...

Sol

Expectation Bias

Wonderful! After reading your post I was just wondering how much I am affected with this disease.

From my life, I remember, my sister talking about marriage and life after that in front of my family. I was actually shocked when she started talking the complexities of life revolving those phases. I mean, to me she is my little kid sister and it was not expected from her to deliver such real life smelling dialogues. But yeah, she had grown up more than that kid sister phase.

I believe girls do make a bad driver. Not a bad driver exactly, but definitely its rare to find a good driver. I think that is also an example of expectation bias. However my sisters drive well. This time I was not surprised.

So, you didn’t suggest how to overcome these expectation bias issue..!!

:)

Iceman said...

The only illusion I was under was when I was in so called "love", a couple of years ago, expected my partner to be at least half strong as I was...

Luckily I wasn't under the illusion for long... may be it was for about 3 months... so the damage inflicted was less as well..

But then even otherwise... I am guy who never judges anyone & no expectations as well... that includes from myself... but for the one time I screwed up, expecting something... LOLz...

Always better to have a hands on approach, rather that expecting or assuming things... Remember, some gyani told me "Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups..."

AmitL said...

hehe..u're certainly practicing your psychology skills on us,Sol..:)
Well,yep..when I was a GET at my first co,I was just 22. So,everyone else there was a 'maibaap'(Godfather).And,the white-haired ones,well,they were supposedly the most learned.But,then,it takes just a few months,nee,days to understand 'kaun kitne paani mein'(Who's swimming,who's just managing to be afloat).
---
As for Dubai,well,I still don't show any disrespect to the oldies,but,we do tend to call them 'takla',buddha''adiyal',etc.And,no,I don't have any 'expectation bias' problems.Either the person is knowledgeable and I respect him,or,he doesn't know anything and I'm cordial.
--
An incident where I fell into the EB trap?Will think and post a comment on that,later.

viswajith.k.n said...

These so called higher cognitive powers can also be used for something better right? How does what you say help a layman who earns his daily roti? :P

MAN IN PAINTING said...

Very good...
nowadays Ramachandran and his phantoms are cleaning the "thing"called "mind" from me...
But still wisdom and knowlledge are different..
Can we trust our instincts more than that accumulated "pavlov" responses?

me have a cartoon
do come..
MIP

Kanan said...

Over the years I have learned that age has nothing to do with maturity and knowledge is not proportional to age.

harish said...

like i commented before...psychology has a definition for everything?

ona lighter note, whats the technical definition for the dread you feel all evening on Sunday? (don't disappoint me by saying MONDAY BLUES!)

oh, before I forget, I admire your patience...I mean, I feel like tearing my eyeballs out after reading some of the comments (also feel amazed at the thought processes of people who can go on such inane tangents from a clear simple post!) how do you manage to sit and patiently answer them point by point?

Solitaire said...

@ Southpaw,

How candid!

Solitaire said...

@ Abhishek,

Jeeta jagta example of "expectation bias"..rock on!

Solitaire said...

@ Harish,

Haha! Psychology has not taught me what the dread on Sunday night is labeled..sorry! But it has taught me to be patient. I do get some VERRRRRRRY "creative" comments that often do not get published here. Part and parcel of working with people, I guess!

Solitaire said...

@ Kanan,

I wish others did too.

Solitaire said...

@ Man in painting,

Instinct or pavlov? Hmmm..interesting point but I guess both theories can be argued for.

Solitaire said...

@ Viswa,

Ok! If you have a really loony boss, and if you live with the expectation bias, then you will get nowhere right! But if you had this knowledge and shed it off, it will help you get your rozi roti better!

Solitaire said...

@ Amit,

Not practicing..only teaching! :)

I guess from your comment, you are a great student!! :)

Solitaire said...

@ Iceman,

Who was that gyani? ;)

Seems like you are gyani enough!!

Solitaire said...

@ Vinu,

Nice to know that you know exactly when and how and where you committed this bias. Really, I do not know how to overcome this bias except for awareness. There are not techniques as such. And plus, it is a natural human tendency!

Southpaw unplugged said...

Well thats how i m...

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

We can not rely on biases and assumptions. There is such thing as individual differences and one person will always be different from the other person. Thanks for the post. God bless.

Anjuli said...

No re, not really, I don't think that age is a determinant whether someone would be wise, intelligent or mature, it has more to do with perceptions and experiences...

humbl devil said...

never met anyone older than me like this...
well, as a kid used to look upto my neighbourhood pal..my senior..but later on me became my own marzi ka maalik!!!

Endevourme said...

learning abt CBs are one important step to free thinking!
but what r u doing? lol
for others, this blog is getting spiritual hehe :D
(i am criticising, hope you understood that)

Amrita said...

lucid is wht i will say abt all ur posts...!
gud work

rantravereflect/ jane said...

:)

older women are drab!
older men are sex maniacs!

no wonder i hate getting older!

Sweetstickychewy said...

***we expect something to happen or be a certain way, even when results suggest it is not true, we continue to be in denial and believe what we always expected.

That is true..:)

I have to agree with you on this post. Most time we are stuck in a world where the older generation supposedly people who have eaten more salt than us knows better than us. I have grown though certain experience of mine. And i will not accept it when people of an older age decides that their voice deserves a better listen than my own. But i have also learnt that at times, it takes a while to sink in the fact that they do have a point.:)

Lovely post Solitaire.

Thanks.:)

Alok said...

Somehow I see the whole world, most of the time going behind with the past experiences and other times with those future exceptions born out of it. And in between there is this stupid reality connecting both of them.

Manasa said...

People often have a tendency saying-maturity comes by age and consider the young ones to be immature!

Solitaire said...

@ Manasa,

Yup yup!

Solitaire said...

@ Alok,

So are you saying that the present is stupid reality? But there has to be something that has to bridge the past with the future, right? And what has expectation bias got to do anything with it?

Alok said...

I mean the reality people build around themselves based on the “expectation bias” is stupid.

Solitaire said...

@ Alok,

Aah I see. Apologies for misunderstanding. Yes, its true. Some people stay under the misconception and then get upset when reality finally hits them.

Solitaire said...

@ Sweetsticky,

Thanks!! I know through your posts that you are very wise and have learned your lessons the hard way. Therefore, I know for sure that you are wiser than many older people I know.

Solitaire said...

@ Rantra,

:o

You just committed an out-group homogeneity bias!

Solitaire said...

@ Amrita,

Thank you!

Solitaire said...

@ Endevourme,

You are?

Solitaire said...

@ Humble,

And now???????

Solitaire said...

@ Anjuli,

Sometimes even experience is not enough. My and your experience could be exactly the same and yet you could learn more from it than I do!

Solitaire said...

@ Mel,

Yes true. But we often forget that.