Distance makes the heart grow fonder?

No..I am not talking about long distance relationships at all.

I am talking about the long distance relationships that we create in our small world when our relationships are within a minute or within a mile radius.

Let's shoot some real life examples (unfortunately from my life!).

Using IM to talk to your roommate in the next room.

"Hey, what's for dinner?"

Using IM to talk to your colleague in the next cubicle or cabin.

"Hey, are you going out to lunch today?"

Using SMS to message your classmate in the same class.

"Hey wanna grab some coffee in the study lounge during break?"

Calling your neighbor who lives 2 buildings away to ask him how his day was.

"Hey how was your day? No sorry, I can't come over. I am lazy"

What would it cost us to walk a few footsteps to make some eye-to-eye contact, show some facial expressions, smile to make someone's day, or maybe just stretch our own lazy muscles? I am sure that your precious smile or warm voice will be more appreciated than an audible that giggles or screeches, or an emoticon that twists the smiley's cheek bones to create an expression any human might not be able to without distorting some muscles.

We all grimace and dread long distance romantic relationships. We assume that these end at some point without meeting any success. But while we do that, we often forget that we our creating our very own long distance relationships with our roommates, friends, colleagues, neighbors, so on and so forth.

Go ahead and turn off our computer or your cellphone today for people within a mile's radius. Or use it only to inform people that you are going over. (The people who will welcome it, that is.)Walk a few steps and share some human contact with those who are willing to do so the same. Bring back what used to be when these gadgets were not in existence: a sense of connectedness and harmony.

Thanks, and walk just a few footsteps today to talk to your friend. It may be worth it!

It takes two to tango!

All humans commit the "fundamental attribution error". As victims, we despise it. When we err, it works to our advantage! In the past one week, I have experienced that I have been at the receiving end of false accusations and judgmental statements. Boy oh boy! They were like a dagger that shredding my heart. "How the hell can she say that?", "What bullshit!", "What a retard!", "He has lost it big time", "Such an idiot"! are some of the statements that came to my mind when I heard the statements. And bingo! Here I was...making judgmental statements about others myself! Someone might say that I have a good reason to do that. Well, I would then say that maybe the persons who did that in the first place, probably did too!

Therefore, when someone says something that you don't like, take it with a pinch of salt. Sit back and reflect on it. Maybe, just maybe, there is a grain of truth to it. Or maybe, the other person is having a bad day...is not necessarily a retard. No active change is required on your part. Mere acceptance of the truth is the first step towards change. And for those, who are mere spectators and not involved in the situation, be sure to listen to both sides of the story before you form an opinion or judgment in partiality. After all, it takes two to tango!

And hey you, yes, especially you. Do not think that I am accepting the accusations as truth. This is no apology. Only a mere blog for you also to reflect on it and think..maybe, just maybe, I was having a bad day too!

Thank you and stay cordial!