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Saturday, June 23, 2007

It takes two to tango!

All humans commit the "fundamental attribution error". As victims, we despise it. When we err, it works to our advantage! In the past one week, I have experienced that I have been at the receiving end of false accusations and judgmental statements. Boy oh boy! They were like a dagger that shredding my heart. "How the hell can she say that?", "What bullshit!", "What a retard!", "He has lost it big time", "Such an idiot"! are some of the statements that came to my mind when I heard the statements. And bingo! Here I was...making judgmental statements about others myself! Someone might say that I have a good reason to do that. Well, I would then say that maybe the persons who did that in the first place, probably did too!

Therefore, when someone says something that you don't like, take it with a pinch of salt. Sit back and reflect on it. Maybe, just maybe, there is a grain of truth to it. Or maybe, the other person is having a bad day...is not necessarily a retard. No active change is required on your part. Mere acceptance of the truth is the first step towards change. And for those, who are mere spectators and not involved in the situation, be sure to listen to both sides of the story before you form an opinion or judgment in partiality. After all, it takes two to tango!

And hey you, yes, especially you. Do not think that I am accepting the accusations as truth. This is no apology. Only a mere blog for you also to reflect on it and think..maybe, just maybe, I was having a bad day too!

Thank you and stay cordial!

3 Words of Wisdom:

Archangel Lucifer.... said...

well tango salsa rock n roll samba.

that was a good post ...

but by the body language u sound cornered and on the defensive...

i dunno if i am right...

is this the calm after the out burst...

or is this the fruedian psychologist applying text book principles to herself..

which defense mechanism would u put ur recent post as...

i am waiting for some feedback

Solitaire said...

I am not into psychoanalysis so dont really pay attention to Freud's jargon so much...but if you want me to ponder hard,I would say "rationalization".

Raysofsun said...

Well said! Not always the other person is wrong. I have always given the other side 'the benefit of doubt' and if they think they have erred too, they will come along. And if they really not just accusing, they generally do!
Meanwhile, bask in the glory that you are being open to even out despite being falsely accused!