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Wednesday, June 27, 2007

"Should" I?

How many times have we seen girlfriends fight with their boyfriends saying, "I am 27 now, I should be getting married!"? How many times have we seen boyfriends retaliate saying, "I dont have a good job yet. I should be making more money than this."? How many times have we said to ourselves, "I should be doing better than this."? How many times have we heard children saying, "I should have the new toy in the market."? How many times have we heard parents saying, "She should have known that that was a bad choice."? SHOULD? Who decided on what a good job "should" be? Who determined that one "should" get married at 27? You? Society? Your parents? YOUR BRAIN? And so what exactly will happen if you dont get married according to your should? It will be delayed by another year? And so? Is that the end of the world? What will happen if you dont have your ideal job when you are getting married? You will struggle to make ends meet until you find one? Is that the end of the world? And how many times have we made a big deal just because things SHOULD not have been this way. But hey guess what, they are, at the very moment you utter those words. Well, what can you do about that? If you can do something, move on and do it. And if you can't, accept it as another hurdle in your path of life. And is that the end of the world?

I should maybe not preach in my blog and be keeping my thoughts to myself. Says who? And should I?

Thanks and should you happen to be impacted by this blog, share your comments with me. You definitely should!

7 Words of Wisdom:

raysofsun said...

More than anything, what matters is 'How much does one want it"
It really doesnt matter when one 'should' and 'has to'marry. Some meet their soulmates when they are 17 and some dont find the right person until 27!
Only thing that matters is that the person is right! everything else can be worked on..Thats just the way I feel!
Some of my friends have got married (guys) when they were 25, only coz their significant other was 25 too..and tha parental pressure from the girls side. So what should be done? Just coz the age is not right, does it mean one should let go of the right person?

Archangel Lucifer.... said...

Miss Gujjuben aka Solitaire,

Glad to see u blog entries from the real world..

This seems to be a more level headed real time post than ur last few posts...

Is the real gujjuben standing up..

hmnnn...

marriage n the right time...
peer pressure...
insecurity...
gettin older...
waitin for the first fine wrinkles.
the right guy...
the right job...
am i too old for marriage...
what will me parents say...
was i wrong...
am i doin the right thing...
is he the right guy...
am i goin too fast...
am i forestalling my future..

CAN I GET THIS RIGHT....

how many facets of the holy alliance can u expect to get spot on positive for you...

when do u decide to triage out the possibilities...

hmnn...

my priorities..the Priory..

ur quest for the happiness u seek is like the holy grail..

i want good guy...
i want good friends..
i want good happy proud parents..
i want good career..
i want good job..
i want good money..
i want good house..
i want good peace of mind..
i want good pampering..

the root cause of "u should" seems to be "i want"

ask ur self..isnt what i said true.
it is for most...

u say ur surrounded by people who dont love u...
then can u survive without them..
can u shoo them away from ur life and say i am still happy..

if u can..then u rock gujjuben..

as far as the gujju baydis i have known they could not stand the isolation and the fact that they r being ignored in a group..

So ask urself..can u survive without ur close friends who suppossedly dont love u...

Emotions seem to be gettin the best of u these days...

i dunno the significance of the age 27 wrt u...

but as far as marriage is concerned and ur post is concerned..I WAS SHOCKED....

from ur profile n post u seemed to be a slightly different person than the rest of the gujju bens around the globe..

strong..independent..witty..foxy..
really smart..

this post makes u sound human..
and it kinda shatters ur super girl image..

THATS NOT GOOD .....

as far as the marraige issue is concerned ...

i think its just again a transient fluttering feelin that has been troubling ur mind presently ...

this phase is sure to pass out fast

this cant be forever..

please dont go on a defensive mode again in ur reply...

speak or better blast ur heart out.

its cool that the devil himself speaks to u ...

Archangel Lucifer.... said...

P:S saw ur profile on orkut.
i aint the stalker types..
so am not bargin in with scraps

if u like maybe only then the
devil will shift over to orkut

whats up with the ever changin
pics.

mirror of ur mind

Archangel Lucifer.... said...
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Solitaire said...

http://mstunnabhai.blogspot.com/
You may wanna read this mr. devil.

Pavi!!!! said...

jus came across this blog..n i mean no offense..jus bein frank n sharin my thots..

kno wat..YOU think things SHOULD be that way...n they are not tht way for u..n so ur questionin urself..at the pretext of asking the whole wide world..

But ya..some of these are things are said over n over n.... and over a period of time..becomes a rule n SHOULD DO kind of stuff!Society starts thinking thats wat is expected of them (heard of the monkey n bananas in a room story?]

A gurl should marry by 27..for a whole bunch of biological reasons amongst many other reasons.
n if ur priorites n wants in Life are differet..thats not a SHOULD for u!
same story for the ideal job scenario...so its all upto 'your'/ 'the couple's' needs, wants and priorities in Life.

Anywez..if u don do the SHOULD stuff..ya a few ppl would complain...but why do u care...its Ur Life at the end of the Day!

Archangel Lucifer.... said...

hey solitaire...

that tunnabhai blog u wanted me to see..

what does that mean...

is it something u tryin to tell me..

is it that u r surrounded by really smart intelligent people who are kings n queens in their own respective fields and apply the same in personal life...makin u feel that why is someone acting as if i am a worm and he or she is the master...

i dunno if i am right...

r u stressed with this "i am the boss" thing..

everyone out to catch the other on the wrong foot..

tell me cos i like words in comments n not mysterious links..

P.S : is this blogger 'tunna bhai'
a great friend of urs..
someone u would hate to love
and love to hate..