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Sunday, July 20, 2008

Words

Words help us communicate. Words help us feel. Words help us think. Words help us live. Words are those groups of letters without which our life is very hard. Words act like magic. You think of something, you form a sentence, you express them and voila...there is a reaction to them.

The words in a great book can move us to tears. The words in a melodious song can create a wave of emotions. The words in a well-scripted movie can remain etched in our minds.

Unfortunately, harsh words created in an agitated mind can pierce our hearts like daggers. Even more unfortunate is that many of us live with bleeding hearts waiting for someone to come lick our wounds and nurse us. We rant, we cry, we crib, we bitch, we yell, we shout, we scream, we cuss, we mock, we accuse, we judge, all in a desperate plea for help.

Why? Because we are hurt. Because we relied on others for OUR self-worth. Because we gave them the right to control our emotions. Because we are insecure with ourselves. Because we think someone else is better than us. Because we think we do not have it in us. Because we believe them.

The truth is...YOU, I, Him, and Her. we all are unique. I have my own set of fingerprints that you don't. I have a face that you don't. You have a fashion style that I don't. You have a writing style that I don't. He has a thought process that I don't. She has a talent that I don't. That is the ultimate truth. I am special. You are exception. You are you. I am me. And so are they, they. Together, we add diversity, beauty, and variety to this world. That is the ultimate truth.

So when they try and put you down, realize that you are worthy of much more and beyond. When someone says, "I hate you", realize that you love yourself. When someone says, "You are mean!", realize that you are different from what they want you to be. When someone says, "You suck!", realize that that does not necessarily make them a better person. When someone lies about you, it does not necessarily become the eternal truth. You know it. And last of all, realize that these are words that were created in someone else's mind. You do not have to believe these words and bring your self-respect down.

"Don't let those prickers bother you", says A mother of two....

You are special and you know it. If you did not, now you do. All that you need to do now is remember it. ALWAYS.

115 Words of Wisdom:

Keshi said...

I agree with every WORD u said here Sol. BUT it's so much more easier said than done. WORDS r very powerful. I so believe in the pen being mightier than the sword. Hence, verbal bullets can hurt and scar us much more than a gun can.

Some people remain scarred all their lives cos of one WORD a loved-one may hv uttered. Why? Cos WORDS somehow manage to pierce the very being in us..the very core of the HEART.


If u hv a heart, there's no way u can walk away not feeling hurt by harsh WORDS.


True that we hv to pick up ourselves and move on, but the echoes of those WORDS dun leave that easily.


Keshi.

Ghost Particle said...

devolving the ability for free speech, and self expression will either make us animals or just a stump on the side of the road. But even animals have self expression. And they dont fake it. Some humans do and pretend the sky is crashing on them, when in truth its nothing. Nothing more important than a fruit flies action during its week long lifetime.

I've been in the blog world long enough to know the rights and wrong, and to separate the true from the fake.

Just hold on.

lukkydivz said...

nice one :)

Knatchbulley Hughzscene said...

very very true!!

my mom alwyz told me tht if sum1 says mean things to u or about u.. it jus shows tht they r jealous of u in sum way.. and ur uniqueness bothers them.
i believe in tht even today...

aloha :) hw hv u bn???

Rakesh said...

good post solitaire..u have brougth the very basic thing..but u do not think everything in the world is relative....here refence is fixed and evrything is compared with that refernce as u fixed..baap bete se bolta hai dekho monu,sonu kha chla gya tum yehi hai..why comparing with monu,sonu he/she is having their own identity,characteristics..

Divkiran said...

Just blogrolled u...enjoy n keep scribblin

Solitaire said...

@ Divkiran,

Thank you. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

You are right. This world is full of competitions, rivalry, jealousy, comparisons. As children, grownups compare us to other kids. As adults, we begin comparing ourselves to others. People should realize that we all are unique in our own special way and that two people do not have to be alike.

Solitaire said...

@ Knatchbulley,

Me fantastic. You?

Absolutely AGREE with what your mom's words. Have noticed that ALL the time. I wish people would live and let live. Jealousy only hurts them the most and not the one they are jealous of.

Hiren said...

Very well written ... just hope that these WORDS of yours comfort a few who might have been at the receiving end of some harsh words ...

** When someone says, "You suck!", realize that that does not necessarily make them a better person.

Precisely ... in fact that makes him an even low person ...if he can just come out and ridicule someone with such statements (more so in public) .. but then this again is my point of view ... and as you rightly hit the bullseye ... watever one says is their perception and understanding of the usage of that word ...

Aayushi..^ said...

Well..
will be back to comment.! :(
(continous reading prob..:D )

nice template btw..kaha se mila?..
and madam,get some time out for chhote bachon ke blogs =P

AmitL said...

*applauds*..great post,Sol. I can see that u're going to make a great psychologist. Yes,words help us communicate,live,think,et al..as Keshi points out,the pen IS mightier than the sword, and a verbal onslaught can hurt like no real weapon can.

So,isn't it our own resilience in such situations which gets tested?And,with each such verbal diatrabe,shouldn't we be getting more and more immune to future duels?

Yes,we should,I did,but,occasionally,even I tend to get bogged down by such verbal duels,which make me feel totally zapped out. Even putting oneself in the other person's shoes to understand why they said what they did,does not work!So,what's the answer?You said it.'You are special and you know it' should be our mantra!!

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

Words... As you rightly said 'words help us feel'.

Words when spoken is something we cant take back. And the usage of proper words do matters.(one of my friend says Sagi's get into trouble with their words and talkings..what they say wont what others percieve...) And i dont know, i had come accross such incidents many a times..

I still wish i havent had used certain words while talking..!!

'Words Help Us Feel' - Good & Bad..

Nice Post..

Keshi said...

Why is ur WORDS topic changing into a JEALOUSY topic?

Sol why d u always think ppl r jealous of u?

I hardly think ppl r jealous of me cos I dun hv anything MORE or BETTER than the rest.

We r all uniquely equal.



Keshi.

Aneesh said...

Well, All I can say is it depends on the strength of our heart, some fall easily infront of a rain of words, some hold on and some fight back and survive.

vishesh said...

in a way it easy for me to think i am special than others...for my name is vishesh :) i know what u mean...i hate to tell someone they suck...but then the world is harsh...and you it is not about u ..it is abt ppl who want to hurt you...but well the world sees you the way ,you see yourself...

Urv said...

Beautifully written Sol.. I don't have any words :)

Solitaire said...

@ Urv,

Beautifully written comment. Those words suffice. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

WOW! People are coming up with clever comments. You are truly vishesh. I hope that the world sees that about you otherwise, you only need to look at your name to be reminded. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Aneesh,

Very true. And where can this strength come from? When you love yourself, you become stronger. And sharp words will take longer to deter you. Well said.

Mansi Trivedi said...

Very true! I was always one of those who would dread over a harsh word for days and days. I would feel so bad and my facebook,gtalk status would be affected too ;)
but gotta change and am taking on that challenge of thickening my skin, slowly but surely!

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

I think you are mistaken. This is not a jealousy post. This is a "harsh words" post. Jealousy could be a "subdivision" of it just like other emotions such as hatred, anger, disgust, etc.

Why do I ALWAYS think people are jealous of me?

Where did THAT come from? I do not remember saying that in the post!

Solitaire said...

@ Vinz,

Welcome to my blog!

This is precisely what I am talking about. Words can scar and hurt and make one feel bad. And if that person's heart is weak, they may be hurt very bad and not survive. There are many reasons for a heart being weak but I think one can make it stronger on their own by loving themselves and not having their self-worth depend on anyone else's perception about them.

So it seems you are at the other end..not at the receiving end but the giving end, huh? Maybe one day, will write a post about that.

carolinagal said...

Nicely written Solitaire!

**When someone lies about you, it does not necessarily become the eternal truth. **

So true!! But sadly, there are people out there in this world who are willing to believe the 'lies' of others, without searching for the real truth. Why do they do that?

As a psychologist, I'm sure you are familiar with 'Projection'. Sometimes, when people say harsh words to others, they are simply being projectionists. They are insecure about themselves and therefore they try to put others down, to make themselves feel better. I feel sorry for such people.

You know what they say, 'What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!'
So keep going girl!

Solitaire said...

@ Carolinagal,

You read my mind girl. I have been thinking about projection all along!! But wanted to refrain from using too much jargon on psychobabble. That's what The WOES are for. :) Speaking of that, am coming up with a personality disorder series there. Please vote for the one you would like to know more about.

About lies, I truly believe based on past experiences that the truth reveals itself in some form or the other. So one should not worry too much about that. One should only focus one's energy on standing strong until that moment arrives.

Easier said than done. But NOT impossible. :)

Thanks CG!

Neeku said...

This is like Neosporin on a little cut in my heart(I got last weekend... !)

its definitely making me feel better :) Thanks Ben !

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Its all a matter of making your heart stronger. It is a world where "survival of the fittest" has always mattered. The wounds will hurt, no doubt, and scars might remain, but does not necessarily have to make one's self worth go down. Yes it is easier said than done. BUT definitely not impossible.

Solitaire said...

@ Neeku,

You are welcome ben. Anytime! :)

carolinagal said...

From our last conversation, I think you should write about Histrionic Personality Disorder.

Solitaire said...

@ Mansi,

Slow and steady wins the race. Go for it!

Solitaire said...

@ Amit,

*applauds*..great post,Sol. I can see that u're going to make a great psychologist.

WOW! That puts a smile on my face.

***So,isn't it our own resilience in such situations which gets tested?

Yes, and that is what this post is aimed at. Building one's resilience WITHOUT more verbal duels. Because, as you said, verbal duels bog one down. Especially, when you are attacked without any valid reasons.

So go follow the mantra!

Solitaire said...

@ Aayushi,

Chhoti bacchi writes like a badi bacchi! I did visit. :)

Template mila Pyzam se. I like that site. Its easy for a technophobic person like me.

What is "continuous reading problem". That should happen only with old people!

Solitaire said...

@ Hiren,

***Very well written ... just hope that these WORDS of yours comfort a few who might have been at the receiving end of some harsh words ...

Thank you!! Neekuben said it acted like Neosporin. :)

***Precisely ... in fact that makes him an even low person ...if he can just come out and ridicule someone with such statements (more so in public)

You are right. When people try and throw dirt at others in public, they do not realize that they are getting their hands dirty too. Wise people say na, "tu kharab bol kar apni zubaan kyon kadvi kar rahi hai?"

***watever one says is their perception and understanding of the usage of that word ...

Correct again! When people hurt us with their words, we need to remember that they understand those words differently and our understanding need not be the same.

Solitaire said...

@ Lukky,

Thank you! :)

Solitaire said...

@ Ghost,

It is such an irony. Mankind is the most intelligent species and yet we abuse and misuse the gifts of speech that we have received. We tend to use our WORDS to SCAR rather than to HEAL, to create TEARS than SMILES, to express MALICE than LOVE. Then we complain that life is not easy. We bring it upon ourselves. I wonder during such times, if it would have been better to be born as a dog that would be lovingly raised by a master and be oblivious to the meanings of those harsh words.

Your comment was very deep.

devolving the ability for free speech, and self expression will either make us animals or just a stump on the side of the road. But even animals have self expression. And they dont fake it. Some humans do and pretend the sky is crashing on them, when in truth its nothing. Nothing more important than a fruit flies action during its week long lifetime.

I've been in the blog world long enough to know the rights and wrong, and to separate the true from the fake.

Just hold on.

aqua gurl said...

hey gurl

thnks a lot for visiting,just browsing through ur blog, like the way you write.

yeah words mean so many different things, the easiest conveyor, in this fast paced life.

cheers!!

keep visiting!

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

Good post!

Very few people in this world know who they are and what they want from life.

Solitaire said...

@ La Vida,

Got your comment on Calm Frenzies about Psychobabble. Glad you liked the post. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Sameera,

Thanks!!

I think a lot of people know what they want but they eventually get it, they don't want it anymore. Hence, the hurt. But what about WORDS?

Solitaire said...

@ Aqua,

Thanks girl! Words can mean so much and convey so much..right..but sometimes they convey things that should have stayed within.

Anu said...

I wish you could see me now, I am standing up and clapping. A good friend was terribly mean to me , which she later apologized for. But the words she said,still ring in my ears, each a spear in its own right. As she vented, she felt better, but as I heard, I shrunk back in horror. It took me sometime, to realize, that she was the one with the problem.
But a look in the mirror solves the problem, each person who know they are, and anothers validation, though nice, is not an absolute necessity

Stupidosaur said...

**We r all uniquely equal.***

Maybe its the result of late night hour at the end of busy day, but this heavy duty post (like most others by gujjuben) is yet to begin sinking inside my head.
But the above statement by Keshi really takes the prize.

'uniquely' and 'all equal' !
???????????????

Stupidosaur said...

Anyways when someone says "You Suck!", just look straight in the eye and say "Of course I do! What do YOU do instead? CHEW on your Soda?

Stupidosaur said...

When someone says
"You are mean!"

Just say
"Of course I am the average kinda next-door-neighbour person, and gladly so! Not like you, the Grand Dictator of Banana Republic of Timbuktoo! Hah!"

And in case the person does not get it and looks at you like the sugar-deficient-banana-starved-monkey-of-the-dictator-republic (reading this, dont look at the screen like the very thing that improvised word is supposed to mean), then please go on to explain that 'mean' means 'average'

Javits said...

Oh to be careful with ones' words. :)

Anindita said...

It is always about us! What other people do or say shouldn't matter! They are just another face on the planet. We should stop living because of them! We should start living for ourselves! We should change and improvise only for ourselves! At the end of the day, if we reflect, it is the I that makes us complete!

We shouldn't let others get to us! :) Because we know who we are! The rest of the world be damned! :D

Pavi!!!! said...

A wonderful choice of words to express sumthing so meaningful.Very well-said.

It is words that gets us all happy at words n it is words that hurt us at other times.

In anger one has no control over the venom they spit...but if one doesn't look back n feel sorry over getting all worked up n acting so petty,n saying mean things n spreading so much negative energy it truly is thier own loss! Your success lies in keeping mum, not retaliating, being mature and behaving like the better person does.

Solitaire said...

@ Humble,

All that I want to say is you bring a smile on my face.

Ankur said...

I agree to you with most of it, Agree to the part where u talk abt words, but the kind of worthiness u r talkin abt is emotional and not logical, and when there are emotions involved, ppl are bound to hurt!!!

**Because we are hurt. Because we relied on others for OUR self-worth. Because we gave them the right to control our emotions

We didnt relied on others for our self-worth, we relied on others for emotions, for feelings, for love, and how do u relate it all to self worth i would really like to know coz may be i m missing the obvious here!!!

It takes time for everyone to recover and come out of it, some do it in a day and some take months... we cant neither justify or quantify the love nor can we say that the person who came out early understands her self worth more!!!

Time is a perfect healing which goes with words, some relationships end without sayin a word, without a fight... emotions play there and coz u understand the other person well u know what she wants!!!

We all may be unique but we all have most in common, which is the pool of emotions, we may behave differently because the degree of emotions is a subjective terms and then we can never equate 2!!!

For me, i m not disillusioned from d world coz i m hurt with words, but surely words can help me heal!!! :)

Cheers!!!!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

****when there are emotions involved, ppl are bound to hurt!!!

No doubt that people will hurt. My point is, do not rely on others to heal. You can learn to love yourself and heal too.

****We didnt relied on others for our self-worth, we relied on others for emotions, for feelings, for love, and how do u relate it all to self worth i would really like to know coz may be i m missing the obvious here!!!

As I read your entire comment, I am absolutely positive that you and I are talking about different things completely. You have interpreted this post in a fashion not intended to be.

I am not talking about LOVE from others here. I am talking about self-esteem. I am talking about people who cannot see themselves in a good light unless others do. Or begin thinking of themselves in a bad light because someone threw dirt at them.

****For me, i m not disillusioned from d world coz i m hurt with words, but surely words can help me heal!!! :)

So glad for that! Since you are that kind of a person, I am pretty positive that you will also refrain from hurting other people with your words. Heal the world!

Solitaire said...

@ Pavi,

***In anger one has no control over the venom they spit...but if one doesn't look back n feel sorry over getting all worked up n acting so petty,n saying mean things n spreading so much negative energy it truly is thier own loss!

True!! They say that anger is one letter short of DANGER. When angry, people get hasty and impulsive and we know that HASTE MAKES WASTE.

***Your success lies in keeping mum, not retaliating, being mature and behaving like the better person does.

Good one! They say that when you point a finger at someone, realize that there are three pointing at yourself. I don't want three pointing at me! :)

Solitaire said...

@ Anindita,

****We should stop living because of them! We should start living for ourselves!

I think that you meant we should NOT stop living because of them. :)

****We shouldn't let others get to us! :) Because we know who we are! The rest of the world be damned! :D

Its not easy. But that definitely should be the motto! Anyway, no pains, no gains!

Solitaire said...

@ Javits,

Yes for one can never turn back time.

Solitaire said...

@ Stupid,

You are at it again!

How many standard deviations are you away from the mean?

As for uniquely equal..have you not heard of oxymorons considering that half your name is a synonym of a moron?

Solitaire said...

@ Anu,

***I wish you could see me now, I am standing up and clapping.

Oh how I wish too!!

***As she vented, she felt better, but as I heard, I shrunk back in horror. It took me sometime, to realize, that she was the one with the problem.

Bravo! At least you realized that she had a problem and not YOU! Just because she was uttering harsh words, does not mean that she is the better person.

***But a look in the mirror solves the problem.

You can look into the mirror. But what about your friend? Who will bell the cat?

Ankur said...

**As I read your entire comment, I am absolutely positive that you and I are talking about different things completely. You have interpreted this post in a fashion not intended to be.

may be... but these were d thoughts which came to my mind!

**I am talking about self-esteem. I am talking about people who cannot see themselves in a good light unless others do. Or begin thinking of themselves in a bad light because someone threw dirt at them.

yeah... for them, its a problem!!!
Sometimes we give a bit too much to ppl who dont mean much to us!!

Ps said...

yes--it indeed seems like we were saying the same things!!No--i don't mind at all if you link me--I'd be honoured in fact.
See--many a time, it is not so much that our self worth comes from them--but when unexpected jibes happen--it is just an 'ouch'--like yo stepped on a thorn unexpectedly.You just clear it and you move on.
That's what I was trying to say. but the prick is indeed real.
What can be altered is the importance you give it.
Cheers
Preeti (just a mother of two)

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Now we both are on the same page! Phew!

Solitaire said...

@ PS,

Linked you! :)

Yes, the prick is real. Whether we choose to dwell on it, cry out loud, whine, and make our lives even more painful than the prick itself, is our choice!

Ankur said...

did i ever disagree to u, not talkin abt words!! ;) :D
hehe

Vinay said...

magnificent... ur WORDS are so nice... beautiful solitaire...!!
i agree with the words u have said...!!
if not chosen properly then any word can be hurtful...but if chosen properly that word can be the most beautiful as well...!!
like u even i live on 2 blogs on daily basis...!! I RHYME WITHOUT REASON... its my poems blog... and RANDOM THOUGHTS... its my thoughts and short stories... do visit when u can and leave a comment if u like my works...!!

PS: ~~~YOU ARE BLOGROLLED~~~!!!

HOBO said...

Believe :
You are special i.e., why they talk about you...
:)

Solitaire said...

@ vinay,

Thanks!! Will visit you soon with some nice words. :)

Solitaire said...

@ HOBO,

Great way to look at it!!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

You did not disagree with those exact same WORDS!

RiverSoul said...

How very inspiring. You seem to know so much abt this.
I had a friend whom i adored beyond belief. But then after 3 years of solid friendship, it ran bitter. She's just a friend, i thought, but for several months, i was so depressed that i could not concentrate on anything at all.
I've been recovering now, bcoz of a dear friend, who inspired me to start my blog, silent recollections, which now is my channel of happiness and pain.
But the bitter and spitefull conversations still haunt me sometimes.
Your post has made a positive impression on me. I really liked it.
I hope you dont mind me blogrolling you:)

Karthik S said...

We are all unique...yes.. but realising that v r all unique and understanding that we are more than what we are thinking about ourselves and working on to achieve things.... are really really difficult. For that we need words...

Ankur said...

**You did not disagree with those exact same WORDS!

:D :D
ok ok baba..
:D

waise this pic is not so cool!! !:D

look i m not smitten (waise still tryin to figure out i m or how much!! ;) )
:D

Cheers!!!

Rakesh said...

sometime ur expression will tell everything without telling a word...child:)

Cinderella. said...

Well said !

You know at times we just perhaps forget that the words we are uttering right now right here might end up cutting the person into pieces that may never fix back. No point apoligising later when the damage is already. And all damagaes arent fixable.

I couldnt agree more with Gp's,

"Some humans do and pretend the sky is crashing on them, when in truth its nothing. Nothing more important than a fruit flies action during its week long lifetime."

Wonderful thought there bhai !

Been in blogdom since so long...pata chal jaata hai kahaka paani kaha jaa raha hai.

ceedy said...

" "

(silence is golden for the speaker and errie if "expecting" a response for the seeker"

vivek said...

A compassionate person develops an eye for spotting the qualities that make each person special. Even when others are at their lowest ebb, it is possible to help them restore their self-belief by keeping a firm, clear vision of their goodness and specialities. Taking a gently encouraging approach, i must never give up on anyone.
Brahmakumaris

A quote i read in today's paper

rahul said...

words sometimes really prick, not prick actually pierce the heart.. am not a sentimental( atleast I don't show)person, but I can't really forget if some one has said something very mean,harsh in a taunting sort of way..in punjabi my dadi used to say,"eh badda meesna hegga :P"

Solitaire said...

@ Riversoul,

****I've been recovering now, bcoz of a dear friend, who inspired me to start my blog

When God closes one door, He opens another.

****Your post has made a positive impression on me. I really liked it.

Thank you!

****I hope you dont mind me blogrolling you:)

Of course not! Thanks!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

***words sometimes really prick, not prick actually pierce the heart.

That's why a mother of two calls them PRICKERS.

***I can't really forget if some one has said something very mean,harsh in a taunting sort of way..in punjabi my dadi used to say,"eh badda meesna hegga :P"

Don't forget. But do not make it your whole life.

What does that punjabi sentence mean?

Solitaire said...

@ Vivek,

How true that quote is. Everyone has a different way of doing things. Just because someone does not do things the way we want them to, does not mean that we can bear malice towards them or give up on them.

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

But you still broke that silence! Does it apply to written words too?

Solitaire said...

@ Cinderella,

Thanks!! Ghost's comment IS quite DEEP.

Its hard for me to know ke kiska paani kaha hai but all that I know is that blogworld is made of the same people that live outside of blogworld and so in a way, this is only a sample of the entire population. Words on blogsville can be equally harsh as words uttered in the real world, face to face. You are right. Once uttered/written, nothing can alter it.

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

And what if you are not face to face?

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

This pic is portraying my nerdiness and not hotness factor.

Ankur said...

m talkin abt coolness and u talkin abt hottie u ;)

and u r no nerd, u r a geek to me!! :)

and i say that very rarely and in respect only! :D

Cheers!!!

ceedy said...

@solitaire

definately penned or spoken all words have their own agenda...

should have just put quote marks...

Rakesh said...

and what if cann't speak even getting face to face?what???

Solitaire said...

@ Vivek,

I have no idea what you are talking about. I guess our exchange of WORDS is getting quite confusing. You think I misinterpreted you and I think you misinterpreted me.

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

You are talking about expressions. That's why I asked you what would happen if you are not face to face. What if you are on the phone with someone?

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

Haha!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

GEEK and NERD are synonyms.

Swayam said...

just the kinda belief i want o have in myself... and yups words can hurt more than anything else ccan... and they can also make things work like there was no tomorrow...:)

Solitaire said...

@ Swayam,

Yup! Therefore, when we have no control over what words others utter, we control the belief we have in ourselves!

Impressionist said...

I agree with everything u said!
"Words like sharpened knives
Leave their mouth; enter your heart
Slicing, reprising"

-I

Ankur said...

haan they are, but the choice of word remains with me, isnt!! :D ;)

tujhe kya laga mai G for ...adheda bhi hoon??? :O

:P

Cheers!!!

Cinderella. said...

"...I know is that blogworld is made of the same people that live outside of blogworld and so in a way, this is only a sample of the entire population."

Indeed !!

Sometimes I wonder what goes on in their minds when they are in the four walls of their rooms and only solitude to speak to....

Rakesh said...

what u r talking yaar?i am telling that sometime silence/expression makes more sense in place of words.

Keshi said...

Stupid, u asked

**'uniquely' and 'all equal' !
???????????????


meaning, we r all UNIQUE beings...so there's an EQUALITY on that level. It's not the kind of equality that can be COMPARED tho.


Maybe u stll dun get it? :) but thats ok.


Keshi.

usha said...

i loved the way you started it with 'words' and worked your way up to 'self esteem'..

words have the potential to wreck or build self-esteem..

but then they wouldn't hurt us more, if we remember 'some' words ALWAYS, right?
well said, girl! :)

Beauty and the BEast said...

THAT was very strong and very needed.

Before you believe in the world you need to start believing in yourself

Beautiful thought!! :)

Prakhar said...

hahah...i liked the blog url :D

well i completely agree wid ya :)

Lena said...

very inspirational indeed! Sometimes people just need to be told these things, even though if they know them somewhere deep inside, they just need to be reminded

rahul said...

it means he is very mean,takes things to heart!!!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

OH! I know a few people like that!

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

Relayx..Rakes.

Gujjuben ishtyle!

Balu said...

Hi Solitaire, really loved your post :)
Words make belief, and change beliefs. They control and change our temperaments, and our nature. Words have been the cause for supremacy of a country/region, and later been the cause for its own downfall. Words cultivate hatred and at the same time, it serves as the balm to soothe it. Words either spread or they confine, they never get eliminated. Words bring two people together for eternity, or they corece them to separate.

Enjoyed your post :)

Regards,
Balu

Solitaire said...

@ Balu,

WOW! Your comment is profound and worthy of being a post by itself.

Thanks a lot!

Solitaire said...

@ Lena,

Yes! That's when we use the healing words and ignore the prickers.

Solitaire said...

@ Prakhar,

Hehe. :)

Thanks!

Solitaire said...

@ Beauty and the beast,

Thank you!! If we don't look at ourselves highly, we cannot expect others to do the same. Right? :)

Solitaire said...

@ Usha,

Thank you!! Words can do a lot of damage or healing. I would like to stick to healing!

Solitaire said...

@ Cinderella,

I think being by themselves confined to solitude, they have WORDS running in their idle mind which changes it into a devil's workshop!

Solitaire said...

@ ankur,

No..only gainda!

Solitaire said...

@ Impressionist,

Yup! And that's when we say kind words to ourselves to ease the pain!

badshah khan said...

I guess i have told this before

Theeinal sutta pun ularaam ...aarathe navinal sutta vadu .....

so choose them carefully...

Rakesh said...

i m relax yaar...:)

Sweetstickychewy said...

WOW you wrote it sooooo wonderfully! wowed.

***Because we are hurt. Because we relied on others for OUR self-worth. Because we gave them the right to control our emotions.

I especially loved what you said that.

THAnks!:D

Meghna said...

Such an inspiring post....so very true....WORDS....they take it all!!

Vandita said...

totally agree...
well chosen words!