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Sunday, January 13, 2008

Which half are you?

They call a spouse the "better half". That means that the two halves are making a one. Sometimes that one piece does not look right. Just like gaudy plastic violet roses in a crystal vase, or salsa over spaghetti, or diesel in a Mustang. Result: chaos, breakdown, misfit, and so on.

So when we come together with our soulmates and unify in a romantic relationship, it is not always what you may dream of or expect it to be. Salsa goes well with chips. Spaghetti goes well with marinara sauce. But salsa with spaghetti is a very unusual combination. Such unusual combinations are also found in relationships, often discovered late by those experiencing them and ignored by those observing them.

This post is dedicated to all my questioning friends. Those who recently got out of bitter or not-so-bitter-yet relationships and are questioning fate. Maybe you were the crystal vase in the relationship; beautiful, precious, and containing. You held on to the pink gaudy roses no matter how ugly they looked in you, just because you liked the feeling of holding them. But if those flowers have left you for another vase, don't fret. More flowers will come your way. Pretty flowers, precious flowers, and REAL flowers.

Sometimes what we think is best for us may not be best for us. And if they go, let them go. Only if the vase is empty, can it make way for the best. Keep shining. This phase too shall pass!

25 Words of Wisdom:

Anjuli said...

loved this post!

too good!

Ravi said...

Beautiful article..

It reminded me of a time, when I was involved with someone..but it was not meant to be her..

Thanks for writing this, buddy!

Take care :o)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Solitaire,
That's a wonderful piece of advice for people to think of their relationship as we usher in a new year. When someone leaves us, we can't do anything but watch the person leaves and hope that someone else will come along the way to replace that person. Life is what we make of it. Thanks for the wonderful post. God bless and have a wonderful and pleasant day in the US always.

vEENs said...

waow!! Solitare..that was a fantabulous write up :)
it does make sense really..
Only if the vase is empty, can it make way for the best


Lov,
Veens

Sreerama said...

hmm...i dunno man.. in most cases.. ppl are awesome as a person but as a couple somehow they make mud!

c e e d y said...

Oh well!!!!!
I will resist commenting on this one - its way too personal a topic for me !!!!! (just a hint - am in that phase :))

justme said...

nice one...really positive !

Vandita said...

i absolutely loved the analogy...
great post
PS: blog updated and there's something for you on it :)

KP said...

When I have to use this term in future...I would not call it "better half" or "signaficant other" I would call it "Partner In Crime"...Dont we all live on Hope that someday life will smile at us....:)!!

Good post...very encouraging!!!

Deepali said...

I always say - Relationships should be based on compatibility and not tolerance.

badshah khan said...

well the thing that i like about this post is the last line... this phase too shall pass ...let it pass fast ...

Anjuli said...

@ceedy: there is some problem in your blog, I am not able to get there.

@solitaire: sorry, i used ur blog as a chat window :-(

Ashu said...

good post, but this is something which i escape thinking about.

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) said...

awesome post!
I am glad you wrote about that since many people tend to whine about relationships and we really need to see the bigger pic.
Cheers!

Cinderella. said...

"This phase too shall pass"

Well, doesnt it always...?

Mez said...

How are you so cool, calm, composed, patient, positive and.....?? I hope what you just said holds true...for i still wanna believe in something called true love. Peace & Amen.

Solitaire said...

@ anjuli..thanks! how are you now?

@ ravi..I am glad that phase is over for you!

@ Mel..HOPE..that's what keeps us all going..

@ Veens, thank you!!

Solitaire said...

@ Sreerama, not all of them..but some..YES!

@ Ceedy, remember..this too shall pass!! Good luck!

@ just me, thank you!!

@ Vandita, thank you for the awards!

@ KP, I like "partner in crime"!

Solitaire said...

@ Deepali, well said!! Very true. Sometimes, we get too habituated to the person and start tolerating them..A known devil is better than an unknown devil mentality!

@ Badshah, I dont know how fast the phase will pass but it will for sure!!

@ Ashu, well I am sure you thought about it while reading this write up! Cheers!

Solitaire said...

@ Raaji, when in the phase ourselves, it is hard not to whine..and that's what these blogs are for..to help you not whine!

@ Cinderella, precisely!

@ Mez, it does and will!! Keep hoping!

Anjuli said...

i am good re...thanks!

Ashu said...

take care solitaire, i paassed thru this phase big time in last 2 yrs!!!

Solitaire said...

@ Ashu, and it passed!! We all need to remember that.

Pri said...

real nice write...and pretty strong thinking there!!

loved it...!:)

humbl devil said...

http://edition.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/10/09/end.relationship/index.html?iref=newssearch


smthing i found, for a friend...ab mujhe hi use karna padd rah hai...hehehe