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Thursday, March 27, 2008

The Future

I was asked a few days ago, "What are you looking forward to in life?".

After much thought, I said, "Nothing" and I meant it.

A simple question led to a series of thoughts. I felt ashamed that I had nothing to look forward to in life, and that if I did, I was unaware of it. I wondered if I had reached a stagnation point in life where all my dreams either were fulfilled or not that important anymore, or was I simply weary and sleep-deprived and unable to look beyond my basic needs that day, or better still, was I very present-oriented, like the sages in the Himalayas?

I wonder if others feel the same way. Some people look forward to the weekends, just like I do. Some people look forward to graduation, just like I do. Some people look forward to retirement, just like I do. Some people look forward to marriage, just like I do. Some people look forward to children, just like I do.

But I remember looking forward to coming to the United States. But I remember looking forward to working here. But I remember looking forward to buying my own car. But I remember looking forward to a doctoral degree.

What changed? I was happy and satisfied when I achieved all these, for a fleeting moment, maybe a few months in some instances but then what happened? More wants, more desires. Are we innately not satisfied with what we have, always wanting more? Are we always looking forward to a future that seems more complete than our present? Is that why we run to psychics, get excited when a friend can read our palms, and read up our daily horoscope in the newspaper? Does the unknown seem more exciting? Yet, when asked, I said I was not looking forward to anything.

Is your future better than mine? Are you looking forward to something?

88 Words of Wisdom:

Freudian-slip2006 said...

"if wishes were horses we would be riding on them......"
Isnt that human to look forward to future, to have unfulfilled dreams and wishes, to have great expecations, to always be craving for soemthing or the other... i wud consider it not normal if one didnt have any on of the above..
i guess there is no harm in having them... sapne dekho magar unke poore hone ki shart mat rakho.....

Nirmal's Blog said...

i must say every individual's future is better or must be better..problem arises when we compare futures....for eg u wanted a car like me...say after 5 yrs we both have car...so technically we both must b happy...then later i cum 2 knw tat u have a porshe while i got a maruti...i get depressed...
tats y i say dont compare it with anybody..
all live life ..its all bout how u live..

~ ॐ ~ said...

I am looking forward to a whole lot of... hoping they happen.. and preparing myself for the time when they don't happen either :)

more like jo hoga dekha jayega :)

SambY said...

Hmm i am looking forward to get my army uniform... missed it by close shaves 3 times... i say i am satisfied if i get a uniform... maybe after joining i may have diffrent dreams... of joining a particular unit.... of getting a particular asignment... of getting a particular award.. I dnt think wishes ever end.. also I have noticed that once you get them.. they dnt look that much enticing... I wanted to clear my nda when i did.. it was like.. okay i did it.. but i had spent years dreaming about it.. dunno why such things happen.. maybe they look gr8 fom a distance.. and lose their original charm when we get them... I dont know.. but it happens... Wishes even transcend reality... Since the day i was rejected for air force on meical grounds.. every day has gone in wishing that one day i might wake up and find my eye power gone... maybe then I would just say.. ok theek ho gayi annken... though jab tak nahi ho rahi I think about it quite a lot...

cheerz

Keshi said...

Im with u on every word u said here Solitaire. When ppl ask me that same qn, I say NOTHING too. And I was so stoked to read this post of ur's cos it was so like ME writing this post :)

I never compare my life with others' and I dont have many WANTs either. Im happy with what I have and what I don't have. Cos thats what makes me who I am.


Wishes..only that John Abraham meets me for lunch ;-)


btw abt my today's post..Solitaire I even had that other post written yday. but something happened this morning..I cried so much. And after a very long time too.


plz dun be upset with me. And tnxx for all the love and care u offer *HUGZ*

Keshi.

rahul said...

very true...become greedier, disgruntled as our wishes get fulfilled, we put our happiness at stake on these tiny materialistic achievements.

...great post...and I too feel the same way :P

PREETI said...

oh sooo true...first i read keshi's todayz post n now urz...im in that 'lost' state too...grey groundz...dno wat i wanna do, dno whr i wanna go, dno wat i want, dno if im happy, dno if im sad, dno if im satisfied...u get the drift!

so many dnoz...tatz all i knw! :)

SwAtI SeThI said...

I feel exactly the same way.. you are so right...'the unknown does seem more exciting'..
its like trying to live the unknown future in the present..and when the future becomes the present..one starts looking forward to newer and different things...
and in this whole process the present seems totally empty..

Lena said...

i am happy and content with my life. I guess i even dont want it to change. I live it according to what i have in the present. Future can wait. It always starts in present, and if the present makes you happy, why looking forward to something else?

Keshi said...

also I wanted to say that being happy with our lives dun mean u cant be sad.

Keshi.

Ghost Particle said...

im looking forward to space travel and more climate disasters.

everything else is the same with everyone.

Gazal said...

thats the tragedy in (some)of our lives......we crave and struggle to achieve that thing..and when we reach it....we find we aren't so happy...coz we have our eyes on another....AMBITION...people call it...its a dangerous thing if in excess.

Iceman said...

If u don't have anything to look fwd to... its not a matter of shame...

Well done to have reached that state...

If u r able answer "empty" for "what's in ur mind?" and "nothing" for "what u want?" u r gr8...

Cinderella. said...

Ofcourse...I am girl..!
Thats human right ?
We all look forward to many things in life...coz they give us the drive to live...be happy about things.
Look forward to living and trying to fulfill ambitions...whether they're actually filled or not, thats a situation in the future.

A very sincere post. Likd it.

Sam said...

This is uncanny! I myself was writing a post on the same lines and this post of yours echoed my sentiments exactly rather even better..Currently my life has reached that stage of monotony where its very difficult to make me really laugh/really cry or really excited..
I do look forward to the future but its the present that is hazy for me..

vEENs said...

well u r not alone... i dnt see othing in front of me....i guess. u shud not be ashamed of it.. the person who asked u can make up sme stuff to impress u ... but it is still a castle of dreams...which have value.. till u live :)

live for today...thats good actually!

Ashish said...

I love realistic dreaming! And thats the source for me to look forward to!! Never be contented!

c e e d y said...

This can be spoken at two levels - one at a professional level and another at personal.

Professionally I guess everyone with some brains wants to look forward to something better and bigger. This too can change with forces beyond our control - economy, company downsizing etc etc.

Personal level - I stopped looking forward - take each day as it comes as what transpired was not what I looked forward to.

And I guess (not boasting ) is an issue with above average intelligence people like us. We set some targets - and work crazy to acheive them - and do acheieve sometimes without struggle and so we kinda feel now what next....

A setback is an important part of this journey and today I do feel challenged again to get everything all on track - its just matter of time....and hope this cycle does never repeat....

rayshma said...

i guess it's only human to 'look forward'... once we achieve a certain dream, a goal.. however frivolous it may be... we move on to the next. it's hoping for things, wanting them, looking fwd that sometimes makes us last the tough times...
as for me, rite now, am scared to look forward to anything. i don't want to acknowledge to myself that i may be looking fwd to anything. i just want to take it as it comes. exception to the rule... maybe i look fwd to vin's graduation... coz life is a blank canvas beyond that rite now...

sorry for the long comment...

rayshma said...

p.s.: oh yeah, abt things not seeming as great once we get them... well, it's the thrill of the chase... :)

Sunshine said...

That's what life is right? We set a milestone for ourselves and then strive to reach them. Once you are past them, you feel exhilarated for a fleeting moment before you label it as 'past'. Most often than not, excitement wears off with maturity and most of us right now are having what is called as quarter-life crisis, which make our wants/ needs seem more exaggerated than they actually are. Live in the moment, is what I believe in too, and if I were asked the same question, I'd answer the same as you did.
Bottom line: You are not alone :)

Amit said...

I just can say..."tomorrow never comes..! live your life today..! you may loose that also..!

or like Lena said....smile and live in today..! tomorrow could be a lot worse...!!

Amit said...

@ keshi

John comes to Castrol's office many a times...(worli)... so when you come bombay, u can try your luck..!!!

lolzzzzzzzzzzzz..

Rahul... in City of Dreamz said...

Yup! gotta admit this.. looking forward to a better future.. and looking forward to ... love!( What else would you expect from a dreamer like me!!)

hoga.. zaroor hoga..

tera bhi.. mera bhi!

Amen!

P said...

"I am simply weary and sleep-deprived and unable to look beyond my basic needs that day"
That's the case for me. I am guessing it is for you too because you seem to be in exact same position as me.
I feel really sad at times that I have stopped dreaming in last 1-2 years. I am pretty sure that if I can take few months break and just do nothing, I will feel motivated to look beyond the present day.

Aditi ''Jiggs'' said...

heyaaa

thnks for stoppin by
well i guess these pts do come in life its just a matter of time till u find smthing else

for me i have a few things to look forward too :)

cheers

Prachi said...

I'm looking forward to...... ...... ........ ???

**confused**

oops,.....I couldnt even say...NOTHING...
gr8 post. agreed completely.

cheers :)

Mansi Trivedi said...

I am looking forward to writing my book and getting it published and being features on nytimes :)

Pavi!!!! said...

Yes..there are things i look forward to. Things i hope to achieve, Things i hope to do, Things i hope to be....I know some of these things I will achieve/do/be n some others will remain mere dreams.
Mabbe at a later point i'll realize that i actually dint want certain things that i was looking forward to!
n Am i happy with wat i have got. Yes. I am thankful for watever i've got till date
Am i satisfied. Yes n No.

n all of this, I believe is true of pretty much everyone in this world!

aneri_masi said...

I look forward to world peace!
Just kidding :)

I had the exact same thought yesterday. Its scary how many people are thinking about this! I was thinking, hmmm...I have everything I have ever wanted, then why am I not happy, what would make me happy.

Just that question to myself changed things quite a bit, I realized there really was no reason for me to be not-happy. I do get sad at times (lost my precious ear-ring, canceled a weekend trip to Palm Springs), but overall I am happy.

So then I thought, is this it then? Do I want nothing else? Is my life over? Not really, I know the things, activities and people that bring me joy. I know I will keep collecting ear-rings (hehe :), I know I will keep clicking pictures, I know I will keep travelling. Every spring, we will weed our yard, plant new life, every winter we our fireplace will be ablaze with flames. I know I will keep loving my husband. Earlier it was by bringing him little gifts, now it is by sharing his responsibilities, making him laugh after a tough day.

"What" I want is pretty much defined now. "How" I get it, "how often", is another matter.

You say you wanted to come to the US, that was a big dream, I guess now comes the next reality check for you...getting to STAY here! (Man, that GC is a bitch!) You say you wanted to work here, and you are? Not really, here comes another reality check, you have your first job after graduation to look forward to! You say you looked forward to your own car? You have it, now you're looking forward to getting your Jetta :) What you want is pretty much the same, just the flavors and colors keep changing!

Sourish Karmakar said...

wishes are so sweet
i get lost in wishes more often...
dont loose hope..

every rainy day has a lurking sun beneath the clouds..

good luck..nd u can talk to me if u want to..jus to be calm..sometime even the counselor needs one..
nd i love the song
comfortably numb ...

keep playing it
cheers n luck

Solitaire said...

@ Freudian, then maybe I am abnormal according to you. Because even though I am hoping that certain things happen, I am not certain that they will and I think to use the phrase "look forward to" would mean that I am certain that they are occurring somewhere in the near or distant future.

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal, I never compare. If I would have compared, I would have been living the life that all my friends are living. Well-settled engineer husband, one kid in hand, one in the belly, nice big house, working part-time, gossiping on weekends, and yearly trips to India. But I decided to choose the road not taken. And not once do I regret it.

Solitaire said...

@ Om, I think the difference between your "jo hoga woh dekha jayega" and my "jo hoga woh dekha jayega" is that yours is filled with anticipation, and mine with sighs due to the various disappointments faced in life. So while you are optimistic, I am in a situation of learned helplessness.

Solitaire said...

@ Samby, Your comment made me smile. I was just like you when I was your age. (Here I go sounding like a fossil again). I have always got what I wanted but a little too late. I always got it after I stopped wanting it. Hence, I never appreciated it after that. Anyway, you have saturday movie date to look forward to. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi, lots of hugs back. I agree with you. I am so beyond comparing my life with others and materialistic pleasures. They now mean nothing. When I look at my friends around and things that they desire and want, I wonder why I am not like that. Why is it that I cannot talk about a new dress that I bought for one entire day? Why is it that I cannot talk about my new internship for more than 2 days? Haha, you joke about John Abraham. I have always wanted to meet Aamir Khan. But now, I am not even quite sure if I have the energy to look forward to that. Life has worn us down.

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul, and I am not even talking about materialistic pleasures here. I live in an apartment with roommates and most of my friends are married and live in houses and yet, I hardly think about a house of my own. Its the intrinsic enthusiasm for life that is missing, even though there is no depressed mood.

Solitaire said...

@ Preeti, and I thought teenagers were supposed to feel that lost! And look at us, adults, with so many responsibilities, at least 1/4 life gone, and yet still do not know what we want to do and what will make us happy.

Solitaire said...

@ Swati, I think that the unknown looks and seems more exciting is because we imagine all sorts of things to happen whereas we know that certain things are not part of our past nor the present.

@ Lena, well I would say that if you are happy with the present, then you are really fortunate and maybe you need to become a preacher or something. I am yet to meet someone who is so content with their life. The world needs your wisdom.

Solitaire said...

@ Ghost, are you trying to be funny?

@ Gazal, but this is not even about ambition. Its not even about getting more degrees or higher paying jobs. I feel like I have no other wants but that does not equate with total satisfaction. Know what I mean?

@ Iceman, maybe that's great to you but its not satisfactory to me!

Solitaire said...

@ Cinderella, then maybe I am human because I am not! I have reached a stagnant state though, not a satisfactory state. And yes, if you ask me what is my drive to live? Its nothing. What is my drive to die? Nothing.

@ Sam, I do cry and laugh a LOT! Though its a lot lesser than what it used to be about ten years ago. I think its all a part and parcel of growing up. Even that laughter and crying episode lasts a short while, though.

Solitaire said...

@ Veens, that's what I am doing. I wake up, go through the monotony of my daily routine, come back and sleep. Its not fun, though.

@ Ashish, you are never contented? Even when your dreams come true?

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy, I think this post is more personal than professional for me. I have never been an ambitious person as far as my career went. Never dreamt of big bucks or lavish lifestyles. What I do personally motivates me intrinsically. I can completely identify with your words. I too have stopped looking forward to anything. It could be maybe a defense mechanism to guard me against any disappointments.

rOhit said...

I can write an entire post on this 'debacle of enough', explaining you over it. All of us have an ideal life in our minds, which include a set of 'desires' and 'pleasure' that we want to achieve. But what exactly is desire?
- Desire represents things that are absent. We have a list of desirable things which will give us 'the pleasure'. We work for it, and get it. And then we make another list required in that particular phase of time. Thus, this continues like a chain-cycle. You must have heard this, "The greatest lie on earth is If I get 'this' I'll be happy." The cycle never ends. This_is_eternal!
All this just boils down to the same word - 'discontentment'. You'll never feel content arrange the words in your brain cells.

This is my best debatable topic. Never ending with deep meanings in every word. Bottom line is-

There is no reality. Everything is perception. Even 'desire' and 'pleasure'.

P.S.- I like such posts more.

Keshi said...

I so agree with ya Solitaire. Thats why I like ya alot. Cos I cabn identify myself in you alot. And I dun find too many ppl like that, who I can relate to.

I love my sis, but she's so crazy abt getting married..she's sooooo into finding a guy that it drives me nuts LOL! I mean alot of ppl ask me if I dun wanna 'find' a guy and settle down. Im like 'NO, why should I?'. Its not that I dun wanna get married etc but Im just content with my life the way it is. It dun need a man to make it happier or wutever. And she's also crazy abt building a house and Im liek arent we already under a roof. I dunno, I dun hv too many material pleasures, even if I do, it wont last too long.



*Life has worn us down.

I think so too. We hv seen the bigger picture. In a way its good hun. Atleast we r not running after material needs entangled in a misery.

The only thing that gets me down abt life is that I see no meaning in it.


*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Keshi said...

lol Amit tnxx!

I must make a trip to Bombay and stand near that building waiting for John...he'd just pass by with Bips and I'f feel like the biggest idiot breathing on Earth.

:)

Like Solitaire said, its only a crush..if I really meet him, i'd get bored within 2mins. I so know that LOL!

Keshi.

Nirmal's Blog said...

@ solitaire plz delete tat comment coz it migt damage my future ( coz i m an engineer and gals wud think they r boring).....loves baby (dnt knw after effect but process i do) lolz..
big house...man envy vijay mallaya 4 tat
weeknds 4 partying and gossiping(bitching)...
yearly trip 2 india...{not now but will after 6months or so)..
hiiiaaa i m so girlish...he he eh..

Solitaire said...

@ Rayshma, long comment? Naah. Valuable comment. It made me think about how even I have been using a defense mechanism of not looking forward to anything to avoid any disappointments. Its easier to be nonchalant when you have not expected something to happen, and perhaps feel happier when something wonderful happens without having expected it. Did anything make sense?

Solitaire said...

@ Sunshine, thank you! Feels good to know from everyone's comments that I am not alone and that a lot of people are "stuck" or so it seems. Quarter-life crisis? I am way past that crisis I think. Or maybe I am in a prolonged crisis!

@ Amit, if today is what I am supposed to be happy with, then I am doomed. Today was a pathetic day.

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul, been there done that. Looked forward a lot to that. Phir kuch hua hi nahi. And finally got terribly bored of waiting. That's why this phase, I guess.

@ Mansi, good luck with that! Let us know when that happens and before you get too famous.

Solitaire said...

@ Pavi, the exclamation marks suggest that you are pretty enthusiastic about the hopes. Therein lies the difference. I hope to graduate. I hope to land in a good job. I hope to be married to a good man. But this hope has also become a monotony and am not expecting too much out of it. Jab hoga dekhenge. Nahi hua tab bhi dekhenge type attitude.

Solitaire said...

@ Aneri, sometimes I wonder are we equating happiness to be something else and therefore are not realizing that we are indeed happy? Or have we been spoilt rotten with the good things and constantly want more?

Thankfully the problems that you assume I will have do not exist. I have no issues about the government allowing or not allowing me to stay here (I do not want to get into those details here). I have no worries about getting a job after my graduation. Got a great internship and got a job after my Master's too. So I technically am not going to be looking for a "first job" and will probably have several offers before I graduate. And about the Jetta, that's only something I like to say. Done nothing about it for the past 8 years, even though I could have bought one easily. Why? Because I know that that is NOT what will bring me satisfaction.

Solitaire said...

@ Sourish, thanks for offering your listening ear. :)

@ Nirmal, is a well-settled engineer a boring engineer? Anyway, don't worry. Your future chances won't be jeopardized. Maybe I am the only weirdo who does not go ga-ga about engineers. Most people in India still think engineering and medicine are the two greatest professions that ever have been and will be.

Nirmal's Blog said...

the way u said ur friends with well settled engineers..i sensed u feel them boring....tats y......
i know in india they r kinda people...but who cares yaar..only thing i know is to be in the ferrari formula 1 team u have to be an engineer..

badshah khan said...

I used to feel the same way . I still lack the motivation to do anything apart from eating. But when I see people doing so many things then I feel may be I need to have a goal and work for it but I hardly do. But thats fine with me as long as i dont starin myself ...

Ankur said...

well, i m short of words...
i guess
this greed wont ever stop
the satisfaction will never come
the ambitions will shape again
and i wont be happy ever...

:)

Hope we all get wat we wish for... Peace!!!
Amen!!!
:)

Ashish said...

I told you, i am realistic dreamer...one dream comes true, i look forward to other and in the journey of achieving other one i enjoy the luxury i get by achieving the previous one. I bet u r confused now!

vishesh said...

hmmm....funny...i look forward yet i don't...i mean whats this humbug called life after all? what am i doing here? surrounded by human beings and all...maybe the only thing which i look forward to is being myself...apart from the materisitic gains...i wish to leave a legacy ,a better way of living life and seeing things around...now without masala no movie is worth watching so in life too...we need go bitching around...get drunk maybe(major wish...still have 2 years to 18 :) } ...aimlessly do something(like now...school)...finally i guess we all will arrive somewhere called home...where our body would be like" dude,stop and think about me...i listnened all these years" and you are like "alright i give you your rest...but better not start becoming old and sick,i need you ass for understanding what i am"...

i am seriously trying to make sense of it all...

anuj said...

yes I am looking forward to something, but at the same time its like a short term thing, so what is it that we should look forward to, something that is long term? so that you dont have to wry about looking foward for sometime, or a short term thing and be happy ..

but at the same time, the future is so undecided .. you alwyz keep wondering ..

confusion and only confusion !!

brocasarea said...

"today is the tomorrow you were worrying about yesterday"..:)

c e e d y said...

Ahaa

One more similartiy ;)

Whar I meant by professional Hope is not about money or fame or anything that is amorphous - you put it and identified it correctly - something that makes one intrinsically happy...

I quit my first higher paying job as I was not happy - work in a small firm - but love it as I get time for myself and am able to reach people in all echelons of life.

Yes you right - its a defencse mechanism - maybe we hopeless should talk sometime

Pri said...

well its not always that things go exactly as planned...so looking fwd to something might lead to dissapointment...and so i think taking each day as it comes is the best thing to do...
though sometimes try as we might, we still look fwd to somethings in life dont we? :(
but maybe its good in a way...it keeps us alive...busy...struggling towards it and hoping for it :)

Pri said...

err guess im 'confused' again :D

wildflower said...

the stagnation u've talked about, strikes the right notes...doesn it instill fresh thought? n the mind craves to find the reasons for this stalemate...!

life is not always about moving on..n on..tirelessly..

It's about letting these things freeze for a bit of time...and looking forward to nothinG...!

Anjuli said...

I am looking forward to my salsa class tommorrow :-)

maverick said...

well im looking forward to finishing my mba in the next few days...then goin home for a week..n then working...

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal, ferrari formula 1 team? :o

@ Badshah, maybe you are stuck in Freud's "oral stage". Don't ask me what it is. If you wanna know, google it. :)

@ Ankur, essentially you just asked God to never make you happy.

@ Ashish, you never had "unrealistic" dreams?

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh, seriously, I am trying to make sense of what you said.

@ Anuj, over time I have realized that these short-term pleasures are transient and I am looking for something that is long-term (as you say). Does not mean that just because its in the far future, I should not think about it NOW. Hell, people start saving for their daughter's wedding 20 years in advance!

Tuhin said...

You wrote my thoughts!

I have let life take its own course. I never know what I want from life ultimately. And I look forward to "nothing" except weekends and some such.

And yet I have to come up with impressive answers when asked in an interview - "When do you see yourself 5/10 years from now?" I wish I could say that's a stupid question.

Solitaire said...

@ Tuhin, yeah! I forgot all about that "interview question". I also give them some shit. Maybe that shit will come true. But am not looking forward to it or sitting by the window and dreaming about it!

BTW, you back from your trip? How was it? Maybe you should write about it!

Solitaire said...

@ Maverick, good luck on your life's mission.

@ Anjuli, hmmm..have fun!

@ Wildflower, I think that what is comforting and exhilarating to one may be cumbersome for another. So while you look at the positive side of looking forward to nothing, I am really frustrated about it.

Solitaire said...

@ Pri, confused doctor? Weird combination. :P

Well, I understand your first part. You are using defense mechanisms to protect yourself. I also understand the second part. You need the drive to keep going. But why have I lost it? And yet not depressed?

Solitaire said...

@ Brocasarea, and will tomorrow will be the tomorrow's today that I was not worrying about today? :P
I bet you are confused now!

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy, similarities hi similarities! Maybe we should talk. You have my email. If you use yahoo messenger, add me! I do not use G at all.

rOhit said...

And why is only my comment not answered?
Sahi hai boss!!

Solitaire said...

@ rohit, oh sorry sorry..yours and keshi's somehow got skipped. Dil pe mat le yaar. Were you looking forward to my response? :p

Anyway, according to you, desire is the absence of something. I can tell you a zillion things which are absent in my life and I wish they were there, and are possible. But yet, I am NOT looking forward to them. Why?

Lena said...

it is not a matter of being fortunate, sneha.. It is not like i have everything pink and glittering. I just learned to love what i have got and appreciate everything coming my way be it good or bad. It is called positive attitude and is something which unfortunately most people are missing. But it is not something you were born with. Everyone can learn if he/she is bothered. Just some people love whining and crying about their miserable lives. No wonder life in this cases is really miserable.
As for becoming preacher? well i dont think i have some hidden wisdom people dont know about, they really do know. Just in a paradoxal way people do not love being happy. It is all in their minds, how they have set it up to be. And until everyone learns to love life the way it comes to them they will look forward to future which unfortunately will be the same as their present because their minds are still the same and nothing changed.
One can not expect future to be different, happier, perfect if they dont change their life attitude.

Solitaire said...

@ Lena, I am clearly not lacking a positive attitude because if someone else would have to live my life, they would have given up a long time ago. I pride myself for being able to come this far all alone by myself. The funny part about all this is that I am NOT unhappy about life. I wish I was. That way not looking forward to anything would have made sense. I was simply looking for an answer to why I feel that way. But through some particular comments and my responses to them, I realized why. Thanks for your input.

Ashish said...

unrealistic dreams are called fantasy in my world!!

Whizkid said...

I am looking forward to going back to India :(

brocasarea said...

@ solitaire......yeah confused like ell!:)..what does that mean??

Jim said...

But I remember looking forward to coming to the United States.

me too
until I realized USA is in recession now

and India is shining
more opportunities in India now

India is the most hospitabe cuntry in the whole world

living is cheap
wada paav is only Rs 5
nimbu pani rs 3
usal pav Rs 5
nariyal pani Rs 12

I fail to understand why my cuntry men drink COKE and PEPSI

flavored water laced with pesticide

Ghost Particle said...

aaaaaaaaah Jim never ceases to be the clown of the party. good work dumbo.

Cosmic Joy said...

Personally, I too think I may have reached that point of stagnation. But one thing I do look forward to is that the good things that I have today in my life continue to be there as the years go by.

Raghu Iyer said...

solitaire...when you look at the future it will be bright...but its only when one puts the dark glasses one see the dark future...

when you were satisfied and then what made you dissatisfied?

if you ask me about my future...
i will say "i dont know about my future...i can assume and pray for my bright and happy future"...

Vandita said...

i asked myself that and i said the same thing..."nothing!"

Shiva said...

Hey,

Thanks for visiting..

There is a phase in everyone's life when they look forward for nothing. Content, blissful and happy. A state of being in nothingness - a void or shunya..
There is everything ans so is nothingness.

A time to introsect, regain some childlike innocence, then you'll look forward for evrything:)

Cheers
Shiva

Alameen said...

if our great grand fathers were content, we wud still be living in jungles..

Change is good.. :)

Cheers
~Al